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In reply to the discussion: So why exactly is "tone" or "approach" more important than actual issues that affect us all? [View all]boston bean
(36,221 posts)than I have seen in any other issue.
My opinion is the "tone" argument is used to deflect and derail a genuine conversation. Why someone would do that... well, that is up to the reader to decide I guess.
Many times I come to the conclusion that they don't support feminist issues. Other times, I see ignorance. Other times, I see that they feel a personal affront when sexism is pointed out or EVEN discussed.
Also, one should take note that telling feminists their tone is wrong harkens back to, we aren't going to listen to you, your opinion means nothing, even if you are right, you said it wrong and I'm shutting you out. I'm sure women aren't the only group of minorities where this "tone" argument takes place. It is basically telling someone to know their place. So, it is an insult to begin with, that some wish feminists would internalize and accept, so their voice is but a whisper.