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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]BainsBane
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What you object to is that I speak at all, that I have the audacity to express views not approved of by a few members of this site, furious that I dare discuss issues of gender and violence against women. You have no evidence that I have ever claimed to speak for all women. You are incensed I speak at all, that I question male privilege. You cry censorship while insisting I have no right to post a simple poll, while claiming I am making false allegations about Quinnox's poll. The poutrage here is entirely yours. You could simply ignore the poll, but that's not sufficient. You feel entitled to tell me that I have no right to object to being called a female dog, as
less that human, or be reduced to vulgar names for the female anatomy.
The vast majority of members on this site see this poll as a no brainer. Of course they don't use vulgar, bigoted insults. You have decided that even asking the question is an outrage. That is entirely your problem. First you started with some anecdote from before I was a member of this site. Now you claim everything is a result of my personality and outrageous views. I did not accuse you of misogyny. YOU decided it was crucial to tell me that posting this poll was an outrage, yet not the poll about fat jokes, just the one about sexism. People can come to their own conclusions why that is. If sexism were not an issue, there would nothing remarkable in this poll. You, on the other hand, proclaim that my objecting to discursive dehumanization of women is somehow illiberal. Whatever notion of progressive politics you hold that justifies your position in this thread is antithetical to everything I value.
Here is the bottom line. You are of course free to be whatever you want be, but leave me out of it. I don't control anyones behavior, but I do get to decide who I relate to. My life, my thoughts and my feelings have nothing whatsoever to do with you. We don't know each other and never will. I could care less what you and your buddies think about me, particularly when you reveal am astounding lack of awareness by accusing me of precisely what you have done.
I am giving you a belated Christmas gift. I no longer exist to you. Put me on ignore, imagine I am dead, or whatever
makes you happy. As long as you never respond to me again, you can free yourself from the bane of my existence. Problem solved. And I in turn spare myself the endless portage of someone infuriated that I dare speak my mind.