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In reply to the discussion: I used to be fat [View all]laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)Hugs back to you. It's hard when the one person on earth who is supposed to love you unconditionally is the source of all your pain. My mother wasn't so much physically abusive (that was my dad), but she played the most fucked up mind games. Still does. Which means I can't read people or pick up red flags (working on that) and I'm hypervigilant about everything which leads to anxiety. My dad was like your mom - the slightest infraction and before you even knew what you did, you were being attacked.
I also have 4 children and I was really motivated to 'do it right'. I've read probably hundreds of parenting books. I practiced attachment parenting when they were little. So far so good, my teens are a joy to be around and my little ones are wonderful too. I get compliments on how great they are all the time. I hope that carries over to adulthood...for now I'm incredibly proud of them.