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In reply to the discussion: All day long I have been fuming about this and I am glad that I waited to post it. I COULD BURN [View all]Waiting For Everyman
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just damage somebody else's life because they feel like it? or bring misery to someone's life just because they can get away with it? What kind of mind thinks like that? It's really prevalent today. I see it all as a continuum of bullying... from extreme horrific incidents like this, all the way down to just psychological petty battering at a place like DU. (I don't want to get off on a tangent, but that is why I am very opposed to some things I see on here, and even by feminists, which disgusts me, because it is all a continuum of the same thing, the same bullying attitude.) There was a story this week about a woman torturing and killing a 4 year old little boy, the son of her boyfriend, so it's spread to the whole population now, even though it's vastly more often men or boys -- I see that changing. I see the same kind of thing, big and small, in all kinds of people all around me all the time.
It's a very ugly sort of entitlement to inflict harm, which is alarming. It's almost as if what it is to be human is corroding away in many people. Many seem to be nearly amoral by now. There is no concern for consequences that has anything to do with what is right, or decent behavior. All that's left is concern for consequences to themselves, whatever they can get away with, they have no qualms about doing.
I agree with everything you posted, including that yes, I too have a big problem with entertainers such as Miley Cyrus, and all the people who make people like her popular. There is no point in railing against what happens to women and then feeding it at the same time... which is what I see some people doing by refusing to come down on that garbage. That "style" of whatever it is should've had its moment, and ended, years ago. I can't believe how long it has gone on, and on. basically since the late 80's now. I'm sick and tired of it, and am amazed that something else hasn't come along to take its place. But maybe that's by design and someone's intention, don't know.
I'm so sorry, roguevalley. For you, and these victims you know. Please tell them that we are thinking of them, and hope for their recovery and comforting.
I don't mean this in a light way, but as a dedication and tribute to the young woman who was hurt, and to you RV, and to all of us who care...
For anybody out there who is in a situation that makes them afraid, I just want to say... it's better by far to live alone than to live with abuse. Up until the day before this happened, this woman had a chance to get out. Clearly she was already too afraid to go, she had been battered down that far. No, they don't love you, they are liars. They think it's cool to get away with doing people harm. No, it won't get better, ever, it will get worse, it always does. No, your abuser isn't different, not a bit different. Don't tolerate it, you deserve to be treated well. Everybody does.
I've been there too and got out, so can you. The first step is believing you can. And the first step to that is gathering information, to show you how you can. Once you can see how it can be done, then you find the will. You can do it, others have, so can you.
Don't worry about the abuser's feelings either, they don't have any that are similar to yours. The only loss they feel is losing the game they like to play. Just go. And don't look back. A couple of thoughts that helped, to pass along...