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cui bono

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13. You've lost the plot. It's not about the models.
Sun Feb 16, 2014, 01:53 AM
Feb 2014

This isn't about a model making a career choice, it's about objectifying women as a whole, and in this case in particular, doing it publicly on a political board that is supposed to be progressive and have respect towards women. Why not just look at the issue in your living room? Why does it have to be posted here, on a political board where you would think men would show more respect to women, for all women to have to see and "hear" men objectifying those women? You said yourself, you can click and find sex very easily on the internet, so go find it somewhere that isn't meant to be about certain values that the Dem party is supposed to stand for, like equal rights and respect for women.

The public sexual ogling of women in bathing suits isn't respectful to women. Would you do this on the street loud enough for all to hear? In your workplace? If your female friends were in a room with you and you were ogling this cover and making comments out loud and they said it bothered them, would you not stop? Even if you aren't able to see the societal problem with it?

Imagine if you said something offensive to one African-American, would not all AAs who heard it be offended? It's not about the target, it's about the person who is doing the objectifying, about their attitude. And it's about the effects of that on society.

Why is it that so many men on here are more concerned that they aren't "allowed" to make public comments about desiring women than they are about the feelings of other women on this message board? Why is it so hard for every man to just be sensitive to what women experience when this goes on? Why is it more important that you get to publicly post pics of women in bikinis and your sexual attraction to them than it is not to offend your fellow DUers?

There was a time when people didn't realize that some varying degrees of racism/homophia were inappropriate or hurtful. As time goes on those views have evolved and changed. Sexism as well. Hopefully they all continue to change as more people become aware and evolve and decide to show some sensitivity to each group's plight.

Honestly, maybe it's because I've always lived in cities save for Santa Cruz, which is really progressive/liberal, but I'm really surprised at the backward thinking of men on this board. It's time to get past that kind of thinking and get sensitive to the other half.

It's not about the model. And it's not about your freedom. It's about respecting all the women on this board and elsewhere. If you choose to continue the sexist behavior so be it. But you are making a conscious choice to disrespect DU women for all of them to see.



And I haven't even begun to bring up how these airbrushed and photoshopped pics give girls/young women terrible body image issues to the point where they develop eating disorders, sometimes fatal ones.

Is this what you would want your daughter to aspire to:



THIS ONE SHOWS WHAT SHE SEES WHEN SHE LOOKS IN MIRROR COMPARED TO WHAT SHE REALLY LOOKS LIKE:















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