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In reply to the discussion: It is not about the swimsuit issue it is about basic respect for women [View all]BainsBane
(53,012 posts)of the hundreds of DUers who find such threads offensive are entirely insignificant have cover because women are responsible for all that ails the world. It has absolutely nothing to do with their repeated scoffing at women's concerns, repeated claims that what we want is meaningless, and their ahistorical blathering that objectification has always existed and always will, and that women rather than men are responsible for it because some of us wear make-up and heels.
The excuses have changed rapidly. First it was objectification doesn't exist. A few fringe feminists imagined the whole thing and maligned DUers firmly committed to equality. Now that they found out hundreds of members object to their crap, they've moved on to new excuses. It's always been that way, and objectification is the fault of women. White Knighting keeps women dependent and furthers oppression. So they throw their sacrificial lamb under the bus. The key point is under no circumstances will they assume any responsibility for their own posts or acknowledge that anyone but themselves is worth listening to.
It's a transparent game that the vast majority of DUers are seeing straight through. Bonobo even tried to claim he didn't even know she posted in the men's group, despite the fact he had posted a thread there calling out TA for offending her. My guess is someone, or a few someones, put her up to posting that thread. Now that it's clear that people are offended, they throw her under the bus.
You see, for many of us this is about issues of equality and diversity. The gender of the poster of that first thread is less important than the overall sexism and misogyny that has become obviously to virtually everyone on this site. Yet for some, all that matters is blaming women and absolving men of any responsibility because ultimately all they have ever cared about is their own privilege.