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229. Truer words were seldom spoken. We all mark, and deal with, departures in our own ways.

Reply to PasadenaTrudy (Reply #24)

Wed Feb 26, 2014, 08:30 PM

Feb 2014

There is no one single "correct" way. No one-size-fits-all. Everyone's situation is different.

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I found my Dad dead this morning [View all] RedRocco Feb 2014 OP

i am so sorry. it is such a shock. seabeyond Feb 2014 #1

My condolences... Ohio Joe Feb 2014 #2

so sorry treestar Feb 2014 #3

I'm so sorry My Good Babushka Feb 2014 #4

I'm so sorry. ananda Feb 2014 #5

I'm so sorry to hear this, RedRocco deutsey Feb 2014 #6

I am so sorry sharp_stick Feb 2014 #7

I'm so sorry for your loss LiberalEsto Feb 2014 #8

yikes.. I'm so sorry Ichingcarpenter Feb 2014 #9

Very sorry for your loss gwheezie Feb 2014 #10

I'm so sorry. hobbit709 Feb 2014 #11

Holy shit! PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #12

That's rough - hang in there. nt el_bryanto Feb 2014 #13

So sorry. Sending thoughts and prayers for both you and your father. woodsprite Feb 2014 #14

Aw geez - I'm very sorry to hear this. cyberswede Feb 2014 #15

I'm not really sure how I feel TBH RedRocco Feb 2014 #16

It's okay PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #24

I think it is going to take a little while RedRocco Feb 2014 #38

Start here...sorry for your loss... Lochloosa Feb 2014 #45

Contact the VA PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #48

RedRocco, enlightenment Feb 2014 #57

thanks for the links guys RedRocco Feb 2014 #67

when my dad passed last year, eShirl Feb 2014 #76

I know... PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #82

Make lists, write things down. Do you have siblings? Other folks who need to be notified? Both of japple Feb 2014 #92

no siblings, I sent my Mom (who I haven't talked with since '98) a message on FaceBook n/t RedRocco Feb 2014 #98

So sorry for your loss, especially the shock to you. No Vested Interest Feb 2014 #239

It is surreal. Everything is different and everything goes on the same. Glad you have support and uppityperson Feb 2014 #122

I'm so sorry for your loss! About the benefits.... ColesCountyDem Feb 2014 #209

That's how it is. kag Feb 2014 #277

You should contact Casualty Assistance at your nearest military post. Solly Mack Feb 2014 #96

I feel your pain Chaco Dundee Feb 2014 #107

Good Recommendations here........... mrmpa Feb 2014 #127

Echoing Pasadena Trudy - contact SS right away! RBStevens Feb 2014 #134

So sorry, Red, for you to have to find your father like that. Take comfort Nay Feb 2014 #138

Respect, RedRocco. Feral Child Feb 2014 #139

Call the VA and check with Social Services rbrnmw Feb 2014 #179

Also call your local American Legion post. Common Sense Party Feb 2014 #185

Contact your local funeral home abbeyco Feb 2014 #244

Good advice, Trudy. Feral Child Feb 2014 #125

Truer words were seldom spoken. We all mark, and deal with, departures in our own ways. calimary Feb 2014 #229

You don't have to be sure of your feelings, and you don't have to have the "right" ones. msanthrope Feb 2014 #36

You feel the way you feel. jeff47 Feb 2014 #72

I'm sorry you had to find him the way you did, I'm sure giftedgirl77 Feb 2014 #118

be good to yourself, RedRocco Skittles Feb 2014 #211

Crap. I'm so sorry for your loss. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2014 #17

OMG so sorry! MoonRiver Feb 2014 #18

I'm so sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you today. MineralMan Feb 2014 #19

I'm so sorry for you loss warrior1 Feb 2014 #20

Very sorry to hear that.... NT Adrahil Feb 2014 #21

Very sorry. That has got to be hard. jwirr Feb 2014 #22

Oh, no ... I'm so sorry, RedRocco polly7 Feb 2014 #23

FUCK!!! that is horrible bigdarryl Feb 2014 #25

What a horrible shock The Blue Flower Feb 2014 #26

I'm very sorry for your loss. opiate69 Feb 2014 #27

My condolences. MerryBlooms Feb 2014 #28

I am so very sorry, RedRocco. I will be thinking of you and your Dad today, and I hope msanthrope Feb 2014 #29

I'm sorry for your loss. hedgehog Feb 2014 #30

So sorry to hear this news. aikoaiko Feb 2014 #31

May Peace be with you at this difficult time. nt xchrom Feb 2014 #32

Very sorry to here that RR. NaturalHigh Feb 2014 #33

How upsetting for you. You must be in shock. MADem Feb 2014 #34

Oh no! I'm so very sorry, RedRocco. City Lights Feb 2014 #35

What a shock! Mz Pip Feb 2014 #37

Deepest sympathy malaise Feb 2014 #39

My condolences to you and your family on your loss. n/t oneshooter Feb 2014 #40

I'm sorry to hear this happened. RKP5637 Feb 2014 #41

What a terrible shock. I'm so sorry. myrna minx Feb 2014 #42

No words. Brigid Feb 2014 #43

My deepest condolences. Jackpine Radical Feb 2014 #44

Sounds like maybe wasn't an old man . . . fadedrose Feb 2014 #46

He was 72 RedRocco Feb 2014 #70

You were a good son to help him and to give him glinda Feb 2014 #190

You did right by him. Chorophyll Feb 2014 #202

I pray he died fulfilled uponit7771 Feb 2014 #231

Totally agree with Fadedrose Iwillnevergiveup Feb 2014 #232

Oh my goodness. Sheldon Cooper Feb 2014 #47

Very sorry for your loss libodem Feb 2014 #49

OMG you have my prayers and condolences gopiscrap Feb 2014 #50

I am so sorry! hrmjustin Feb 2014 #51

So sorry, RedRocco. My condolences to you and your family. May he rest in peace. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #52

I am so sorry arthritisR_US Feb 2014 #53

My condolences - TBF Feb 2014 #54

I'm so sorry. Glorfindel Feb 2014 #55

Oh my Proud Liberal Dem Feb 2014 #56

So sorry for mercuryblues Feb 2014 #58

Very sorry for your loss berni_mccoy Feb 2014 #59

So sorry for your loss Bettie Feb 2014 #60

Ask for as much help as you need BrotherIvan Feb 2014 #61

Oh, no! I'm so sorry for your loss and that you had to experience finding him, RedRocco. ChisolmTrailDem Feb 2014 #62

I'm so sorry, Red Rocco. Sissyk Feb 2014 #63

So sorry :( polichick Feb 2014 #64

My deepest sympathies. CFLDem Feb 2014 #65

I am so sorry NikolaC Feb 2014 #66

Oh, I am so sorry! peace13 Feb 2014 #68

I am so very very sorry RedRocco. Mira Feb 2014 #69

I am so very, very sorry TDale313 Feb 2014 #71

Oh God, I'm so so sorry. Sarah Ibarruri Feb 2014 #73

My deepest sympathies. sheshe2 Feb 2014 #74

So sorry, RedRocco democrank Feb 2014 #75

So sorry for your loss. nt intheozone Feb 2014 #77

I am so sorry. Prayers and thought are with you. badtoworse Feb 2014 #78

Oh no Red! How tragic. I'm so sorry. AllyCat Feb 2014 #79

I am so sorry Mojorabbit Feb 2014 #80

I had 2 firetrucks, 4 cops, and EMT here RedRocco Feb 2014 #94

Yes, same here. It felt so surreal. Hug. nt Mojorabbit Feb 2014 #114

at least the cop that waited inside with me was young and unjaded n/t RedRocco Feb 2014 #120

so sorry RebeccaBeasley Feb 2014 #81

So sorry for your loss. UtahLib Feb 2014 #83

My condolences to you and your loved ones. GeorgeGist Feb 2014 #84

:-( meegbear Feb 2014 #85

I am so sorry for your loss. A hug to you. LoisB Feb 2014 #86

I am so sorry for your loss. Its a good thing you have someone with you though riderinthestorm Feb 2014 #87

I am so sorry question everything Feb 2014 #88

So very sorry for your loss... one_voice Feb 2014 #89

Oman. I'm so sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Feb 2014 #90

So sorry for your loss. MadrasT Feb 2014 #91

Very, very sorry to hear this. joeybee12 Feb 2014 #93

Sorry for your loss ... that must've been really awful ... I cannot imagine ... brett_jv Feb 2014 #95

COPD and high blood pressure RedRocco Feb 2014 #108

........ daleanime Feb 2014 #97

I'm so very sorry. sinkingfeeling Feb 2014 #99

Wishing you strength. JaneQPublic Feb 2014 #100

So sorry. Many condolences to you. Lost my dad last fall.... villager Feb 2014 #101

yeah, he was fine last night RedRocco Feb 2014 #109

On edit: Never mind my follow up question villager Feb 2014 #119

A sloppy joe sounds lovely. progressoid Feb 2014 #181

. Jesus Malverde Feb 2014 #102

OMG. I am so sorry! Triana Feb 2014 #103

So very sorry. Faygo Kid Feb 2014 #104

Please accept my condolences. malthaussen Feb 2014 #105

I'me very sorry for your loss. MinneapolisMatt Feb 2014 #106

So sorry for your loss. Nika Feb 2014 #110

I am so terribly sorry for your loss. KitSileya Feb 2014 #111

Oh my God, RedRocco! loudsue Feb 2014 #112

I'm so sorry RedRocco.. Viva_La_Revolution Feb 2014 #113

Im so sorry AgingAmerican Feb 2014 #115

leT me know what I can do to help Chaco Dundee Feb 2014 #116

oh i'm so sorry. barbtries Feb 2014 #117

so very sorry to hear this. reading some of the responses, you have gotten some excellent advice. niyad Feb 2014 #121

it really sucks that our parnets get old--so sorry for your loss dembotoz Feb 2014 #123

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. kairos12 Feb 2014 #124

Sorry to hear that mwrguy Feb 2014 #126

Sorry about this shock. I can only say that he was lucky to have you in his life. Take care of you. freshwest Feb 2014 #128

I am so sorry for your loss, and the shocking way magical thyme Feb 2014 #129

I'm saddened by your loss RedstDem Feb 2014 #130

May he rest in peace. William769 Feb 2014 #131

((so sorry)) handmade34 Feb 2014 #132

I am so sorry.... CherokeeDem Feb 2014 #133

Here's hoping... Rod Beauvex Feb 2014 #135

So sorry for your loss. Such a shock for you and your family. Sunlei Feb 2014 #136

My condolences. 840high Feb 2014 #137

I Had a Similar Experience mckara Feb 2014 #140

I am so sorry for your loss bigwillq Feb 2014 #141

That is so sad. TM99 Feb 2014 #142

When all is said and done.... N_E_1 for Tennis Feb 2014 #143

You have my sincere sympathy, RedRocco. another_liberal Feb 2014 #144

My son died almost 4 weeks ago lunatica Feb 2014 #145

I'm so sorry to read this Lunatica. adirondacker Feb 2014 #162

I lost my sis PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #186

I know what you mean lunatica Feb 2014 #279

oh god, lunatica. I am so sorry. I am so very sorry. :*( roguevalley Feb 2014 #171

Thank you so much for your words lunatica Feb 2014 #280

That's horrible Yo_Mama Feb 2014 #247

Good memories are my lifeline right now lunatica Feb 2014 #281

I' so sorry to hear this Rider3 Feb 2014 #146

So sorry RedRocco. Glimmer of Hope Feb 2014 #147

Sending condolences to you and your family. LibDemAlways Feb 2014 #148

So sorry ctsnowman Feb 2014 #149

My condolences, I'm so sorry nt MrScorpio Feb 2014 #150

So sorry for your loss. Worried senior Feb 2014 #151

I am so sorry get the red out Feb 2014 #152

I am sorry for your loss, RedRocco. gademocrat7 Feb 2014 #153

My deepest sympathy to you for your loss... virgdem Feb 2014 #154

My sympathies. Cleita Feb 2014 #155

That's awful, Rocco, I'm so sorry this has happened. sibelian Feb 2014 #156

I don't know what to say MynameisBlarney Feb 2014 #157

I'm really sorry it happened this way DFW Feb 2014 #158

I am so sad for you and your family. crim son Feb 2014 #159

That's heavy. WheelWalker Feb 2014 #160

I'm sorry for your loss. Third Doctor Feb 2014 #161

So sorry for your loss. B Calm Feb 2014 #163

My condolences. Be blessed RedRocco!! rury Feb 2014 #164

Very sorry for your loss Pakid Feb 2014 #165

My condolences. Blue_In_AK Feb 2014 #166

Damn, that's tough lillypaddle Feb 2014 #167

So Sorry for the way this went for you DreamSmoker Feb 2014 #168

So sorry for you. VA_Jill Feb 2014 #169

My mother fell down dead in front of me. I take it now as a privilege to be with roguevalley Feb 2014 #170

This is a great post, roguevalley, thank you for sharing your very tough story with the OP and anneboleyn Feb 2014 #217

May you and your family find peace Lebam in LA Feb 2014 #172

So sorry for your loss... Tom_Foolery Feb 2014 #173

Dear RedRocco PumpkinAle Feb 2014 #174

Damn, that never gets easy. Xyzse Feb 2014 #175

So sorry for your loss cate94 Feb 2014 #176

condolences to you and (((hug))) RainDog Feb 2014 #177

I am so sorry for your loss rbrnmw Feb 2014 #178

My sympathies. bravenak Feb 2014 #180

So sorry to hear that.... yuiyoshida Feb 2014 #182

Vibes to you and your family. (((Hugs))) too. applegrove Feb 2014 #183

... defacto7 Feb 2014 #184

{{{{{HUG}}}}} I hope you feel his warm life essence right there with you. He's there! DesertDiamond Feb 2014 #187

My condolences sakabatou Feb 2014 #188

I'm sorry for your loss n/t A Little Weird Feb 2014 #189

Sorry for your loss Harmony Blue Feb 2014 #191

Condolences ReRe Feb 2014 #192

I am so sorry RedRocco NEOhiodemocrat Feb 2014 #193

My sympathies to you. SaveOurDemocracy Feb 2014 #194

So sorry for you. Remember to be good to yourself over the next few days. n/t Egalitarian Thug Feb 2014 #195

I'm so sorry to hear this azurnoir Feb 2014 #196

Oh no... tavernier Feb 2014 #197

Much love: grahamhgreen Feb 2014 #198

so sorry for your loss steve2470 Feb 2014 #199

I'm so sorry, RedRocco. Chorophyll Feb 2014 #200

hugs nadinbrzezinski Feb 2014 #201

My Mom passed away last Spring... Not Me Feb 2014 #203

Better at home, hope he didn't suffer. Dustlawyer Feb 2014 #204

I'm so sorry. Chellee Feb 2014 #205

Im so sorry. ((hugs)) SummerSnow Feb 2014 #206

My condolences to you and family. westerebus Feb 2014 #207

Oh, I am so very sorry. knitter4democracy Feb 2014 #208

I'm so very sorry. SalmonChantedEvening Feb 2014 #210

condolences DonCoquixote Feb 2014 #212

So sorry....n/t radhika Feb 2014 #213

Wow... toddwv Feb 2014 #214

I am so very sorry you had to find him like that. liberalmuse Feb 2014 #215

Very sorry for your loss and your pain. I hope your family and friends can help support you anneboleyn Feb 2014 #216

There isn't a lot to say,but one of the reasons we thrive is to help when you need it DainBramaged Feb 2014 #218

I am so sorry for your loss, RR. Ilsa Feb 2014 #219

Bless your heart. Nobody can ever really be prepared for such a shock. IrishAyes Feb 2014 #220

My condolences to you and your family life long demo Feb 2014 #221

so sorry! n/t wildbilln864 Feb 2014 #222

I'm very sorry, RedRocco n/t Oilwellian Feb 2014 #223

Sorry for your loss. Denis 11 Feb 2014 #224

So very sad at your loss. RIP RedRocco's Dad! cntrygrl Feb 2014 #225

Condolences. Peace be unto you. nt kelliekat44 Feb 2014 #226

Words can't express how sorry I am. Lefta Dissenter Feb 2014 #227

I'm so sorry to hear this, RedRocco. All our love and sympathy to you and all your loved ones calimary Feb 2014 #228

That's a tough row to hoe... Uben Feb 2014 #230

I am so sorry, RedRocco. brer cat Feb 2014 #233

I'm so sorry! pacalo Feb 2014 #234

Peace to you MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #235

How difficult for you! phylny Feb 2014 #236

Condolences joesdaughter Feb 2014 #237

This message was self-deleted by its author Th1onein Feb 2014 #238

I'm so sorry Warpy Feb 2014 #240

Condolences denbot Feb 2014 #241

I offer my condolences, too. Lifelong Protester Feb 2014 #242

Good God, redrocco Dorian Gray Feb 2014 #243

So, so sorry Yo_Mama Feb 2014 #245

I am truly sorry for your loss... BeatleBoot Feb 2014 #246

I'm very sorry. A few thoughts about wht happens now. July Feb 2014 #248

I'm so sorry GigiMommy Feb 2014 #249

I know 2 people who found their parent just after they passed and neither was expected lunasun Feb 2014 #250

I am so sorry. diabeticman Feb 2014 #251

I'm so sorry. Aerows Feb 2014 #252

Condolences cantbeserious Feb 2014 #253

I'm so sorry for your loss. Jasana Feb 2014 #254

reI found my Dad dead this morning allan01 Feb 2014 #255

(((((((RedRocco))))))) WillyT Feb 2014 #256

What a very hard thing for you to have experienced. lexington filly Feb 2014 #257

I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences. highplainsdem Feb 2014 #258

........ Fearless Feb 2014 #259

My sincerest condolences. I am so sorry. Maraya1969 Feb 2014 #260

my condolences. DesertFlower Feb 2014 #261

Sorry man. mahina Feb 2014 #262

I'm so sorry for your loss. Joe Shlabotnik Feb 2014 #263

Sorry to hear that, Rocco. ='( AverageJoe90 Feb 2014 #264

You'll need his DD214 mahina Feb 2014 #265

How horrible for you. Remember the good times. They'll help get you through. juajen Feb 2014 #266

Wishing you strength and courage to face the days and months ahead. Surya Gayatri Feb 2014 #267

Warm thoughts, RedRocco. NT pablo_marmol Feb 2014 #268

I feel for you RedRocco. I'm thankful you were there for him. johnlucas Feb 2014 #269

Condolences to you and your family in your time of grief... Ghost in the Machine Feb 2014 #270

I am so, so sorry. colorado_ufo Feb 2014 #271

I am so sorry. TxDemChem Feb 2014 #272

I am so sorry. irisblue Feb 2014 #273

My heart goes out to you and your family emsimon33 Feb 2014 #274

sincerest condolences RoccoR5955 Feb 2014 #275

Please accept my deepest sympathies and sincere condolences, RedRocco. Octafish Feb 2014 #276

Whoa...(((RedRocco)))! Stellar Feb 2014 #278

My sympathies. I don't know what's worse: Expecting it or not expecting it. Eleanors38 Feb 2014 #282

I am so so sorry for your loss. :( cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #283

I want to thank you all RedRocco Feb 2014 #284