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74. Why do people insist there must be some set of rules to follow that
Mon Mar 10, 2014, 08:37 AM
Mar 2014

are similar to some type of ceremony?

Just get to know other people and don't have the goal of screwing somebody. Wait until it happens naturally. Just having the goal of getting them into bed is dehumanizing.

Well we can go back to the very first days. Rex Mar 2014 #1
Rex I totally get what your saying, In fact I now see there are Autumn Mar 2014 #68
I've always said you were smarter than the average bear! Rex Mar 2014 #104
Hey I am so smart I think I am making peace with Windows 8. Autumn Mar 2014 #110
Wow you must have reached Nirvana! Rex Mar 2014 #128
Yeah I had an automatic update to 8.1 a couple days l after I got my new laptop. Autumn Mar 2014 #129
Yeah the next generations are going to look at us like Rex Mar 2014 #138
"at one time we peed & threw our own feces at each other to express gratitude & general attraction" Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #139
You, sir, win the double plated golden derby award! Rex Mar 2014 #141
Sure, taunt me with reminders of my big-eared childhood. Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #142
. frwrfpos Mar 2014 #168
I got nuthin'... TeeYiYi Mar 2014 #174
What exactly is a "normal" woman Manny? sheshe2 Mar 2014 #2
In this case, ones that weren't hubristic members of the 1%. MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #3
For real???? Matariki Mar 2014 #6
Literally. I didn't really know her, it was a big school. MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #8
Well wow. And I always suspected she was a performance artist Matariki Mar 2014 #16
Who didn't know Ann at Cornell? And by that, I mean carnally. Seriously...you never met her? msanthrope Mar 2014 #19
Only barely plus. MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #24
What frat? nt msanthrope Mar 2014 #25
Alpha Normal Women MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #28
You seem a might touchy lately, Manny BainsBane Mar 2014 #52
Wow. sheshe2 Mar 2014 #31
A rather touchy persona, no??? nt msanthrope Mar 2014 #69
I would have to say yes to that. nt sheshe2 Mar 2014 #145
Well Ann Coulter is in a class all of her own. sheshe2 Mar 2014 #15
It seems like you are looking for a fight where none is merited. Matariki Mar 2014 #17
How do you define "normal women"? sheshe2 Mar 2014 #21
That's not what I said. At all. Not even close. MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #18
Categorizing women is offensive. sheshe2 Mar 2014 #26
Have a good night MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #29
Dismiss the silly woman? sheshe2 Mar 2014 #30
A person with a *whit* of sense would have written something like "Gee, Manny, MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #33
So have you changed your OP yet? sheshe2 Mar 2014 #38
You've been posting for just about 18 months. bahrbearian Mar 2014 #84
That would be a quality that many of our poster sadly do not possess. Puglover Mar 2014 #107
Well...see post 33 sheshe2 Mar 2014 #115
You, Bainesbane and msanthrope seem to want personal information from Manny Autumn Mar 2014 #120
What personal information am I requesting? sheshe2 Mar 2014 #121
Reading is a skill, I didn't say you were "requesting' it. Autumn Mar 2014 #122
I didn't solicit any personal information BainsBane Mar 2014 #147
How was that post you linked to gossiping about you? Violet_Crumble Mar 2014 #150
She linked to it in the Lounge. BainsBane Mar 2014 #164
There weren't any links to the Lounge in her post... Violet_Crumble Mar 2014 #165
I think I see your comprehension problem. You misunderstood what she wrote. R B Garr Mar 2014 #166
I don't have a comprehension problem Violet_Crumble Mar 2014 #167
You seem touchy. Did I offend by posting in a protected group? Look in a mirror Autumn Mar 2014 #161
Naturally you see no difference between personal gossip and talking about racism BainsBane Mar 2014 #162
It's easy to see you. Autumn Mar 2014 #163
man, your dense,, bahrbearian Mar 2014 #124
pot, kettle. sheshe2 Mar 2014 #125
by the way; sheshe2 Mar 2014 #143
Because the point is not to post BainsBane Mar 2014 #148
You two are a pair. bahrbearian Mar 2014 #157
You are the one who interpreted the words tkmorris Mar 2014 #35
Really? No, I did it well. sheshe2 Mar 2014 #45
Is categorizing men offensive? Jim Lane Mar 2014 #111
LOL Cali_Democrat Mar 2014 #47
I've said it before, Manny. You could post a fucking meat loaf recipe and someone ... 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #91
+1. GoneFishin Mar 2014 #101
Manny didn't say or imply or even suggest that a woman that has self-confidence is hubristic Vattel Mar 2014 #81
Please. Spare us. MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #132
Okay,you lost me. What proves my hatred? Vattel Mar 2014 #134
I was being sarcastic, sorry. MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #136
oh, sorry, usually I pick up on your sarcasm or facetiousness. Vattel Mar 2014 #137
definition! sheshe2 Mar 2014 #144
Hubris is excessive self-confidence, not any sort of self-confidence Vattel Mar 2014 #154
Logic challenged. Waiting For Everyman Mar 2014 #87
+1. nt. polly7 Mar 2014 #92
+1. GoneFishin Mar 2014 #102
Also take note of the subtle Puglover Mar 2014 #126
The thing about 1 percenters BainsBane Mar 2014 #53
Indeed...I await the explanation. nt msanthrope Mar 2014 #20
Don't hold your breath... sheshe2 Mar 2014 #27
out of his many personas, his "put upon victim" persona is the least professional... dionysus Mar 2014 #36
He haz a sad :( sheshe2 Mar 2014 #43
He pulled it last night with me BainsBane Mar 2014 #54
by trying to multitr,task, he's letting his work suffer. dionysus Mar 2014 #55
I have noticed that BainsBane Mar 2014 #56
a poorly recycled mel brooks act.... "hey! where's a fella gotta go to shtup around here! oy!" dionysus Mar 2014 #57
You Better Believe It!!!! nt msanthrope Mar 2014 #70
Spreading into gender issues treestar Mar 2014 #76
Yes and~ sheshe2 Mar 2014 #59
!!! he's in character even in his alerts!! dionysus Mar 2014 #60
:) sheshe2 Mar 2014 #61
wow, just further proof this thread was nothing but flypaper to get posts hidden R B Garr Mar 2014 #100
the put upon victim thing from the left treestar Mar 2014 #72
You've been given the explanation. Jim Lane Mar 2014 #108
That stuck out for me too treestar Mar 2014 #71
Notice the others that I asked... sheshe2 Mar 2014 #146
how do people move from "nice to meet you!" to "um, I'm having trouble with this clip thing"? DJ13 Mar 2014 #4
The smooth move these days is to pull out a virtual wallet and send across a couple of bitcoins BlueStreak Mar 2014 #32
Using something known as geek tragedy Mar 2014 #5
What are these "social skills" you speak? nt MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #7
Mostly specialties like geek tragedy Mar 2014 #12
"Thinking" and "listening", what are these things? MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #14
You know, Mitt Romney had those exact questions. nt geek tragedy Mar 2014 #22
Treating the women like other people rather than treestar Mar 2014 #78
pick-up artists are misogynists, without exception in my experience nt geek tragedy Mar 2014 #79
Social skills work on 'normal' women??? Who knew??? nt msanthrope Mar 2014 #23
Fully clothed. n/t A HERETIC I AM Mar 2014 #9
This post might give a partial explanation to your curiosity... adirondacker Mar 2014 #10
Au contrare! MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #13
Thankyou Jesus mother nature still does its thang with me ... MindMover Mar 2014 #11
First you need to negotiate dating unless you want to pay a call girl Warpy Mar 2014 #34
I don't find it offensive either, why would ANYONE find it offensive? sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #41
I'm glad someone around here has some perspective. Vattel Mar 2014 #83
+1. nt. polly7 Mar 2014 #93
appropriate for the Lounge, Manny. nt 7wo7rees Mar 2014 #37
I gave it up for Lent Fumesucker Mar 2014 #39
Internet dating seems to be the way these days for shtupping, for guys anyway. Cleita Mar 2014 #40
no, there are plenty of women who enjoy meeting a guy and just having sex JI7 Mar 2014 #42
I don't know any woman who just does sex unless she's in the business. Cleita Mar 2014 #46
most of the girls/women i have known have wanted just sex and nothing more JI7 Mar 2014 #50
Well, I stand corrected, but I have never known one. n/t Cleita Mar 2014 #86
It's your age JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #152
Really? blueamy66 Mar 2014 #62
I went through most of my 20's without the intention giftedgirl77 Mar 2014 #89
I did and I wasn't in "the business." Le Taz Hot Mar 2014 #105
It's called hooking up JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #151
yes Cleita, far be it from any man to actually want a relationship.... dionysus Mar 2014 #44
C'mon. I never said that. I said guys who are out looking for shtupping are not looking for Cleita Mar 2014 #48
then i misunderstood you and i apologize. dionysus Mar 2014 #49
I hear you, but what she really said is that men on the internet are liars R B Garr Mar 2014 #58
Note whoever wants less is in "control" treestar Mar 2014 #75
Ask Lily Von Shtupp edbermac Mar 2014 #51
One of the greats! Le Taz Hot Mar 2014 #106
People are still having sex. Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #63
Since you asked... yes, it is inappropriate for a political forum. theHandpuppet Mar 2014 #64
Your Forgot To Add "In Your Opinion" ProfessorGAC Mar 2014 #65
If you don't want opinions, don't pose questions. theHandpuppet Mar 2014 #66
Gee Manny. Lately I read your threads and it's like falling into a kaleidescope Autumn Mar 2014 #67
The corporate brigade is feeling a bit "bludgeoned." woo me with science Mar 2014 #85
it's the same as it was then only the choice of beverage has changed. ;) lol nt Javaman Mar 2014 #73
Less booze, more coffee. In_The_Wind Mar 2014 #103
on second thought... Javaman Mar 2014 #116
I'm actually agreeing with your first statement. In_The_Wind Mar 2014 #117
Okay... Javaman Mar 2014 #118
No problem In_The_Wind Mar 2014 #119
Why do people insist there must be some set of rules to follow that treestar Mar 2014 #74
"get to know" MissMillie Mar 2014 #80
That's sad. redqueen Mar 2014 #96
Well that's sad too. cui bono Mar 2014 #156
That's very sad. MineralMan Mar 2014 #97
I never dated a guy I did not know first Skittles Mar 2014 #140
It happens naturally or you're doing it wrong. nt Lex Mar 2014 #77
Manny, Manny, Manny Berlum Mar 2014 #82
Individual people; individual experiences. MineralMan Mar 2014 #88
Beats me, but I can't hear a single person here... snooper2 Mar 2014 #90
Yes, a dumb question, but... MineralMan Mar 2014 #94
I thought that said "shutup". Waiting For Everyman Mar 2014 #95
what is it ? Laura PourMeADrink Mar 2014 #99
Nope, but he did forget a "p." :) ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #113
Well... I think that's not a settled issue MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #131
I thought so to undeterred Mar 2014 #112
I would have to say it's a lot easier now. polly7 Mar 2014 #98
Willingness to explore natural bisexual inclinations doubles your chances for a date. Zorra Mar 2014 #109
You underestimate yourself... LanternWaste Mar 2014 #114
You’re right, “roughly the same” but some differences Jim Lane Mar 2014 #123
Thank you! Finally an answer to the question I tried to ask! MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #130
Where the hell does one get a dental dam? hack89 Mar 2014 #158
Sex shop or online Jim Lane Mar 2014 #159
Thanks. n hack89 Mar 2014 #160
Aswan? Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #169
Hoover. Has to be US made. Nt hack89 Mar 2014 #170
You know, I considered that, and then i thought "but Hoover isn't actually a geographic location" Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #171
Loose minds and loose standards always make humor easier. nt hack89 Mar 2014 #172
I got the last one down Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #173
Frat boys who don't know how to communicate with women... A shock... Ohio Joe Mar 2014 #127
At first glance, I thought he was Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #133
Message auto-removed Name removed Mar 2014 #135
Missionary, with the lights out. cherokeeprogressive Mar 2014 #149
Love.. sendero Mar 2014 #153
Just be glad you aren't out there JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #155
With my wife, the shtuping was easy LittleBlue Mar 2014 #175
IIRC it is the same as ever. If you are looking to bump uglies hit the bar and catch like minded eye Vincardog Mar 2014 #176
I suspect the same way(s) as in Ye Olden Days. WinkyDink Mar 2014 #177
Naughty texting is unbelievably effective at setting the stage. Codeine Mar 2014 #178
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