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KentuckyWoman

(6,666 posts)
16. Look you gotta do what you gotta do
Sat Mar 15, 2014, 11:56 PM
Mar 2014

As long as grandma is getting what she needs and you two have finished your business then being at her bedside is optional. She doesn't need the entire family ogling her last breath. If you want to be supportive of those in the family who can be there then do so.

If it's any help though for some reason many people perk up the last days or hours. Not all but pretty common. Even with that, the end is a real bastard to watch.

Vibes to you all. Never been through that. applegrove Mar 2014 #1
Thank you diabeticman Mar 2014 #6
My slight experience is when the breathing changes it is usally within the next 48 hours. Thinkingabout Mar 2014 #2
Thank you. I did earlier this week diabeticman Mar 2014 #7
It will be her victory Thinkingabout Mar 2014 #10
I lost my mother in December.... CherokeeDem Mar 2014 #3
I am sorry. thank you for the information diabeticman Mar 2014 #8
Doesn't sound cruel at all. My late wife couldn't take being with her dad when he died in a Hoyt Mar 2014 #4
Tanks for the support diabeticman Mar 2014 #9
I was with my grandfather in similar circumstances BainsBane Mar 2014 #5
I understand and respect your thoughts. I am sorry about your Grandfather and his situation. diabeticman Mar 2014 #12
The hardest loss and the first was my Mother GoldenOldie Mar 2014 #18
go see her no matter how uncomfy you feel. you will be super glad you did when she is gone. nt msongs Mar 2014 #11
your there for one thing. MFM008 Mar 2014 #13
Morphine will stop the pain but will expedite her end. Hoppy Mar 2014 #14
What does she want? She's the one ending her journey. flvegan Mar 2014 #15
She is blind and didn't recognize my voice earlier this past week. I don't think she understands diabeticman Mar 2014 #17
What if she does? flvegan Mar 2014 #20
Look you gotta do what you gotta do KentuckyWoman Mar 2014 #16
Thank you for your thoughts diabeticman Mar 2014 #19
As your wife explained, she will go to sleep and never wake up nadinbrzezinski Mar 2014 #21
.. Liberal_in_LA Mar 2014 #22
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