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Showing Original Post only (View all)NOT ALL MEN, BUT STILL TOO MANY MEN [View all]
http://terribleminds.com/ramble/2014/05/25/not-all-men-but-still-too-many-men/A young man felt spurned by women and shot people because of it. He drove up and fired a weapon out of a BMW and committed murder, leaving behind a video and a manifesto about his rage against women. He felt rejected by them. He was reportedly a follower of MRA (Mens Rights Activism), which is a group of men who are upset because they feel they have an unequal set of rights in a few key areas, which is a lot like a rich guy who is mad at a homeless guy because the homeless guy is standing in his favorite patch of sunlight. (The term mens rights is roughly analogous to the phrase white power, and equally creepy.) Yes, we can talk about gun rights and mental health issues because neither are properly addressed in this country. But we also need to talk about the entitlement of men and the objectification of women.
Most of the men who read this blog are, I hope and assume, not entitled piss-bags who think that they are owed affection by women, as if thats the role of women in this life, to be willing and charitable receptacles for our urges. To be punching bags and accessories. To reiterate and sound the horn just the same: women dont owe you anything. Whether youre an alpha male or a wanna-be alpha, some faux bro-dude bad-ass or some repressed alley-dwelling CHUD, it matters little. I dont care who you are; your maleness does not entitle you to anything.
You may have been told otherwise.
Culture wants us to think that. That being a guy comes with a rider like were Van Halen demanding a fucking bowl full of green M&Ms or some shit, but Im here to tell you, that isnt true. Its a myth. Youre entitled to nothing, and yet, ironically, youre born with this pesky thing called privilege. And sure, someone out there is already mad Ive invoked that word, that being a dude is hard on its own and privilege is an illusion and blah blah blah something about divorced men and prostate cancer, but just remember that the men go on dates thinking they wont get laid, and women go on dates thinking they might get raped, punched, maybe killed. Remember that as a man you can say all kinds of shit and add lol at the end of it and nobody gives a shit, but as a woman anything you say might be interpreted as antagonistic and end up with rape threats or death threats. Remember that any seemingly safe space train station, bookstore, social media, city park is an opportunity for a man to catch a train or read a book, but is also an opportunity for a woman to be the subject of threat or sexual violence.
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Well at least I am not attempting to defend the sick fantasies of the MRA community
intaglio
May 2014
#95
Can we not pull out the same tired old excuses for not talking about gun control and
valerief
May 2014
#102
I have wondered that - most of my life. The whole nauseating Woman-As-Property thing.
calimary
May 2014
#37
The comment about "privilege" aside, this was a rather good, thoughtful article overall.
AverageJoe90
May 2014
#13
Putting on my "Use Google" hat I need only point you at the vile postings on loveshy
intaglio
May 2014
#84
How is calling out entitled assholes "hateful" towards all men? I don't follow you...
nomorenomore08
May 2014
#50
Not according to the OP and not to a lot of women on this site. We're all lumped in together.
Darkhawk32
May 2014
#26
Cultural biases don't have to be consciously expressed to have an effect.
nomorenomore08
May 2014
#49
"Sexism is an action" - No, sexism is what inspires action and what is produced by action.
Gravitycollapse
May 2014
#87
So how exactly does one unconsciously ingrain prejudice against or have contempt for women?
Major Nikon
May 2014
#68
Are you telling me that a significant percentage of men don't think women are inferior?
Spider Jerusalem
May 2014
#71
Nailed it, thank you. Ridiculous the lengths people go to in oreder to try and squash the
bettyellen
May 2014
#99
Of course men commit most of the murders. I was just answering the other poster's question.
nomorenomore08
May 2014
#90
The fact of the matter is, people of both genders can be abusive, degrading and downright hatefull,
DrewFlorida
May 2014
#40
Very well stated but probably not going to receive much consideration right now. n/t
Darkhawk32
May 2014
#66
"...barking up the wrong trees when they think a feminist-monster is up there."
nomorenomore08
May 2014
#92
That's one way to look at it. Regardless, I didn't come away with the most positive feeling. n/t
nomorenomore08
May 2014
#107