that women have been subject to such tactics all our lives, that we could cite and write the responses for you. What is an amusing game to you is the tragedy of our lives, and we're quite used to our tragedies being turned into "not all men" or in specific "not me." And some of us--apparently many of us--are not in the mood to push our tragedies aside to soothe someone by agreeing that it's "not all men" or 'not you." It feels like being at loved one's funeral, and someone walking in and saying, "But I didn't die," like we should cancel the funeral.

I trust you can find the soothing and comfort being called "civil discussion" that you need, but I doubt it will be here.