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In reply to the discussion: The Isla Vista shooter COULD have gotten a girlfriend [View all]Tsiyu
(18,186 posts)136. I think your figure is 80% in mens' heads and not reality
I hate to say it but your statement just shows how ---hm,how to put this kindly - 'distorted" some mens' thinking is regarding success in love. Did you pull that figure from your own gut feeling or what?
If we want to discuss issues and make any headway, we need to be sure we are using facts and not delusional or warped thinking.
According to the US census:
http://www.census.gov/newsroom/releases/archives/facts_for_features_special_editions/cb12-ff18.html
Single Life
102 million
Number of unmarried people in America 18 and older in 2011. This group comprised 44.1 percent of all U.S. residents 18 and older.
Source: America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2011
<http://www.census.gov/population/www/socdemo/hh-fam/cps2011.html> Table A1.
53%
Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older who were women in 2011; 47 percent were men.
Source: America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2011
<http://www.census.gov/population/www/socdemo/hh-fam/cps2011.html> Table A1.
62%
Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older in 2011 who had never been married. Another 24 percent were divorced, and 14 percent were widowed.
Source: America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2011
<http://www.census.gov/population/www/socdemo/hh-fam/cps2011.html> Table A1
17 million
Number of unmarried U.S. residents 65 and older in 2011. These seniors comprised 16 percent of all unmarried people 18 and older.
Source: America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2011
<http://www.census.gov/population/www/socdemo/hh-fam/cps2011.html> Table A1
89
Number of unmarried men 18 and older for every 100 unmarried women in the United States in 2011.
Source: America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2011
<http://www.census.gov/population/www/socdemo/hh-fam/cps2011.html> Table A1
55 million
Number of households maintained by unmarried men and women in 2011. These households comprised 46 percent of households nationwide.
Source: America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2011
<http://www.census.gov/population/www/socdemo/hh-fam/cps2011.html> Table A2
33 million
Number of people who lived alone in 2011. They comprised 28 percent of all households, up from 17 percent in 1970.
Source: America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2011
<http://www.census.gov/population/www/socdemo/hh-fam/cps2011.html> Table H1 and HH-4
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"they can't see that there is more to the definition of beauty than a pretty face and a nice body"
redqueen
May 2014
#4
Absolutely right. Which is why we have four year olds worried about "getting fat" as if the
Number23
May 2014
#98
It truly is. I also find it sickening that the very concept is mocked and ridiculed
redqueen
May 2014
#106
You can't know that. One report says he was hearing voices. Depending on what he was hearing,
pnwmom
May 2014
#43
That's your opinion. But what is fact is that he was being prescribed an anti-psychotic,
pnwmom
May 2014
#62
"The researchers posit that these differences are evolutionary". Posit=assume as a fact
uppityperson
May 2014
#25
Yes that is exactly it. He never wrote about approaching a woman and actually being turned down and
seaglass
May 2014
#29
I've not watched the video, but getting a girlfriend isn't as easy for some people...
Silent3
May 2014
#10
Not necessarily. He may well have, probably did, turn anyone off immediately.
Schema Thing
May 2014
#11
Exactly what I was going to say. It would be quite easy to repel everyone you meet
stevenleser
May 2014
#18
He assumed every woman he saw was fucking the man next to her- and that POV shows
bettyellen
May 2014
#23
"This Roger guy emits warning signals like a rotating radar antenna": MineralMan
Hekate
May 2014
#46
True. But a strong daughter will be better able to handle the shit that gets thrown at her.
pnwmom
May 2014
#45
Thank you (and squinch and redqueen above you) for your kind words (NT)
Proud Public Servant
May 2014
#131
"To imagine that you can fix the problem by raising the "right" kind of daughter . . ."
Lex
May 2014
#133
He wasn't exactly what I would call an approachable person in the first place
herding cats
May 2014
#80
No, he thought there were many gorgeous girls at school, and was unable to meet anyone on his own.
bettyellen
May 2014
#81
Sigh. I am actually interested, which is why I brought it up. If you would check, you
Common Sense Party
May 2014
#84
someone here confessed they hated feminists because one single woman many years prior had
bettyellen
May 2014
#79
what you have to realize about that kind of resentment, is that you are denying others their
bettyellen
May 2014
#100
He was as shallow as he was disturbed. His obsession with all things "blonde" was absolutely pitiful
Number23
May 2014
#99
Anyone of any age (18+) of any gender can get a girlfriend. Elliot Rodgers problems is he didn't
MillennialDem
May 2014
#101
I find it hard to believe the child of a Hollywood director couldn't get a girlfriend
hughee99
May 2014
#118
I realize people with normal social skills can't understand how someone can't get a girlfriend.
LisaL
May 2014
#119
From what I've read about this guy he had a mental disorder, and had only ever approached a woman
Erose999
May 2014
#122
Animals can sense when another of their species is not right...and we,too, are animals.
Ikonoklast
May 2014
#127