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In reply to the discussion: “Political correctness”: decoding a vicious, pernicious code word [View all]Algernon Moncrieff
(5,790 posts)The expression "HHNFLAAWS" is not generally used to describe actual physical violence, or even the type of constructive vandalism from Carrie Underwood songs. It is used - generally - by members of my gender to describe a type of frosty-eyed, loud volumed reprimand for real (usually) and imagined (less frequently) sleights. You may say that this is an unfortunate and unfair stereotype; I would counter by telling you that the floral and jewelry industries are built, in part, upon this unfortunate and unfair stereotype. These events generally occur when members of my gender overpromise and under deliver on commitments, get caught with other members of your gender, blow their paychecks at strip clubs or casinos, forget anniversaries or birthdays. Long story short -- it's a specific type of anger that takes place in male/female (or I suppose, female/female) interpersonal relationships.
My grandfather, who I never met, had an awful temper. He threw things; hit his kids; hit his wife; yelled and screamed. I've visited many women's shelter's in my professional life that are primarily built on the awfulness of angry men.