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In reply to the discussion: I'm done, too. [View all]seabeyond
(110,159 posts)and there are all kinds of language that let us know, that is what a poster is saying to us. like. sex positive/negative. we are thinking adults. we know what we are doing. when we call it out. we are the meanies. my father in law. almost two decades. the many family gatherings that i did, because i wanted that for my boys and what my husband needs/wants. would tell me one, two, three sexist joke eveyr visit. every visit for almost two decades. in front of a crowd. always. hmmmmm. lol. passive aggressive. all these educated, diverse, liberal family would look the other way. he would position himself, look me in the eye and tell me the joke.
everyone knew.
the game though. was in if i said something and if i did not. i knew the not losing was in being quiet. now winning by any means. but not losing. the losing was.... even in respect, and nice, and coddle, and gentle (and rarely implemented, only in cases of particularly bad, in front of my young boys. it was more important for me to teach my boys, that it was not allowed, and i as a woman was not allowed to be insulted without me saying). if i said no, at all/in anyway, i was the bad guy.
this is a family of smart. but, it was more important to protect/allow father. that is what i as a feminist call out. and it is not what i grew up with. they also found out they had two gay sons. and walked from the catholic church and no longer tell gay jokes. that would be wrong. they also found out a couple decades ago, FIL has black blood. from new orleans. a sister that was denied an education. there was a large age spread and he did not know she was denied education. she changed her birth certificate. she was defined as lack. we do not tell black jokes any more, either. (not we in me. as a whole by allowing even) i am not the one to allow. in all these things. i have consistently not allowed. and that makes me the bad guy. it shuts me up also. then, i am done.
meh
lol. gotta go.