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In reply to the discussion: How to know that you hate women [View all]mindwalker_i
(4,407 posts)Does this guy go around to women and tell them he hates them? Does he go around and do things to hurt women? Is this something he does as a regular part of his life? I don't think so. What he did was hit his wife/fiancee/whatever, and I think he did that to make it clear that he wouldn't "take any guff" from her - that she was "his woman" and would treat with with the respect he believes he's entitled to. To him, being violent in order to enforce that was fine, if not a good thing. Calling him a "hater" plasters over this entire set of details. My impression is that sports, specifically this one, glorify violence to a non-trivial extent, and the people in charge really should do everything to make it clear that violence is not ok. By calling him a hater, it takes the focus away from the idea that violence is ok and gives the officials of the sport a pass.
Consider this: ISIS may hate us. They may hate America. Calling them haters might even be correct, but it's an easy way to gloss over the details of the issues surrounding them. Maybe they hate us because our foreign policy screwed them over, or meddled in their society in ways they really don't like. Using a simple concept like hate, that's easy for people to buy, kind of prevents them from looking at the details, considering the causes, or forming an opinion that is accurate. When Bush said "they hate us for our freedoms," that was a nice, easy, simple sound bite that people could swallow and feel like no further effort was required of them. Similarly, calling this guy a "hater" makes it to easy for people to not feel like anything more is required of them. Maybe they need to stop supporting a sport that glorifies violence, by not watching it, by not buying tickets to games.
Calling him a hater makes it too easy for other people to not have any responsibility.