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In reply to the discussion: How to know that you hate women [View all]Veilex
(1,555 posts)Anger is quite often expressed when someone is unable to control the actions of others... thereby, ironically, losing control of themselves.
He quite clearly cares about her... at least enough to care about what she does... and enough to marry her.
(slight sidetrack)
I think he actually cared a great deal... and had a complete lack of ability to express himself in a healthy manner. <--- this right here is the important part... this is what allows us to potentially understand why he acted the way he did... and to understand what needs to change... not necessarily with him (he's pretty much done)... but this can be used as a guiding light... for example: - If we know men being unable to properly communicate how they feel could lead to unhealthy actions... then we can reasonably assert the need to help them be able to express themselves in a manner that is healthy... to circumvent/avoid such action in the future.
Perhaps this is a bit of an over simplification... but instead of glossing over the reasons for violence, it is important to study and understand why it happens... so that we can then work to prevent it from happening. Which I think might have been your point? more or less? Or maybe I'm just putting my own spin on it.