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It's not an easy situation. HuckleB Sep 2014 #1
Hitting your child isn't going to make things better. Warren Stupidity Sep 2014 #2
But what could I have done? peabody Sep 2014 #5
The not-spanking seems like an important piece of the puzzle. Orsino Sep 2014 #50
Tasers, Mace (Police approved)? How about a big game tranq rifle? Katashi_itto Sep 2014 #141
What would you have done if you were in my situation? peabody Sep 2014 #11
I don't know what I would have done, I know what I would not have done. Warren Stupidity Sep 2014 #78
Move the coffee table. mercuryblues Sep 2014 #100
That's the magic bullet right there Dorian Gray Sep 2014 #126
BINGO laundry_queen Sep 2014 #135
So, what's the solution? nt ChisolmTrailDem Sep 2014 #24
She "refused" to go to her room? hlthe2b Sep 2014 #3
I'm totally in agreement with you. dballance Sep 2014 #106
Yeah, that stood out to me too. laundry_queen Sep 2014 #136
consistency is critical elehhhhna Sep 2014 #4
My wife always say's that.... Koch Ebola Sep 2014 #6
Yes, my wife and I are peabody Sep 2014 #10
If she wouldn't go to her room voluntarily, B2G Sep 2014 #7
Same here. Any screaming = no tv for 2 hours (young kids don't have a good idea of time FSogol Sep 2014 #12
I agree... Making a child take responsibility for their own behavior by apologizing to the neighbor hlthe2b Sep 2014 #17
And it she didn't stay, B2G Sep 2014 #20
My Mom would paddle me and my sister, but I never did that to my sons. (or had to) FSogol Sep 2014 #21
As I stated in another thread, B2G Sep 2014 #27
I wasn't commenting on you personally with my comments. It is more of an FSogol Sep 2014 #29
That is the answer.. Oktober Sep 2014 #31
My father use to hit me pretty hard when he peabody Sep 2014 #52
"I vowed never to treat my kids that way" Awesome. FSogol Sep 2014 #54
OK. You probably won't like this, but it sounds like cali Sep 2014 #8
This sound like a good idea peabody Sep 2014 #14
striking a child is what you wish to avoid. cali Sep 2014 #25
My family always ate together cwydro Sep 2014 #140
I don't have kids myself, mythology Sep 2014 #9
There's something you didn't mention trying. pnwmom Sep 2014 #13
Humm, I'll try that next time. peabody Sep 2014 #22
This might help: abelenkpe Sep 2014 #36
"How to Talk so Kids Will Listen" is the book my sisters and I used when our kids were young. SalviaBlue Sep 2014 #115
I used the whisper routine enlightenment Sep 2014 #39
Great post, enlightenment. And you're right that this kind of response can take a long time, pnwmom Sep 2014 #46
I was lucky to have parents enlightenment Sep 2014 #60
Your parents were very unusual for their generation. You were lucky. And so were your children. n/t pnwmom Sep 2014 #62
They were, and I was - and the kid turned out okay, too! Thanks. :) n/t enlightenment Sep 2014 #65
"okay, are you done now?" SoCalDem Sep 2014 #112
Here's a book about validating that I think you might like. It's short and has plenty of examples. pnwmom Sep 2014 #49
Thank you. peabody Sep 2014 #82
There aren't easy answers. LiberalAndProud Sep 2014 #15
that's a beautiful story. cali Sep 2014 #26
material at the link is very good treestar Sep 2014 #53
That's the kind of dad I tried to be. hunter Sep 2014 #98
I know that growing up LiberalAndProud Sep 2014 #99
Just a suggestion, but... pipi_k Sep 2014 #16
Tsst! Lol! beam me up scottie Sep 2014 #44
Hahahaha!!! pipi_k Sep 2014 #59
Oh you definitely have to see it then. beam me up scottie Sep 2014 #72
I want to add to your post by saying SheilaT Sep 2014 #101
Well, you could start by turning off the tv TexasMommaWithAHat Sep 2014 #18
That's what we're trying to do right now peabody Sep 2014 #28
Two things to share with you: phylny Sep 2014 #119
my question would be, why the hell is an 8 yr old behaving like this? seabeyond Sep 2014 #19
even the best kids have their bad days, or at least their bad moments. unblock Sep 2014 #34
we are talking 8. words work. not two. i do not agree. seabeyond Sep 2014 #35
sounds great, but it doesn't always work that way. unblock Sep 2014 #43
Every kid is different, seaybeyond. I had a niece who was a screamer -- even at that age -- pnwmom Sep 2014 #55
Agree with this Dorian Gray Sep 2014 #130
Yeah. I had some pretty good boundaries and they worked really great on 3 out of my 4 kids. Arkansas Granny Sep 2014 #69
That's what I would look for. Kid could be in some kind of pain but Cleita Sep 2014 #76
If the child had emotional problems or was on the autism spectrum MadrasT Sep 2014 #116
i totally agree. seabeyond Sep 2014 #117
How much sugar are your kids having? iscooterliberally Sep 2014 #23
"let's have a good scream: 1-2-3 AAARRRGGGHHH!" unblock Sep 2014 #30
Interesting idea! peabody Sep 2014 #38
i didn't think of it as humor at first, not until he started laughing. unblock Sep 2014 #45
My grandfather did something similar. shrike Sep 2014 #77
I've been known to use the old: Tsiyu Sep 2014 #134
You monster.. Oktober Sep 2014 #32
Take away her audience - TBF Sep 2014 #33
Through the ordeal, I was taking away privileges. peabody Sep 2014 #42
My youngest is the one who would TBF Sep 2014 #92
To my eyes, your incident last night is the result of a lot of small bad decisions over the years. Brickbat Sep 2014 #37
She sounds like my kindergartener. I try to distract her and it sometimes works. I would like to jwirr Sep 2014 #40
I sent this book to my daughter. I think it's one of the best for this topic. pnwmom Sep 2014 #66
You could try a kneeling or seated cradle assist. Sheldon Cooper Sep 2014 #41
Many good suggestions on this thread. Ilsa Sep 2014 #47
lots of good suggestions here--and I wouldn't rule out filming or threatening to film it zazen Sep 2014 #48
First thing you do - put yourself in time out until you calm down. Avalux Sep 2014 #51
Thank you. It took all I had just peabody Sep 2014 #57
You're welcome! Avalux Sep 2014 #64
Oh man, peabody Sep 2014 #73
It's not easy! Avalux Sep 2014 #103
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Why? Do you think we are all horrible parents? Avalux Sep 2014 #58
Actually, the advice peabody Sep 2014 #63
Getting a monkey to throw darts at a board is also a method. BKH70041 Sep 2014 #67
So you disagree with phil89 Sep 2014 #70
LOL. Somebody has a sad. My theory: He had Ray Rice and Adrian Peterson on his fantasy team. FSogol Sep 2014 #79
Slam! tazkcmo Sep 2014 #107
Post removed Post removed Sep 2014 #137
DU will just pretend this never happens LittleBlue Sep 2014 #61
And when the do call CPS tazkcmo Sep 2014 #108
Make a chart of when you kids act up like this. JoePhilly Sep 2014 #68
When the kid gets old enough shenmue Sep 2014 #71
My tried and true mercuryblues Sep 2014 #120
Children do not know limits. kentuck Sep 2014 #74
This takes more questions before giving advice. nolabear Sep 2014 #75
The neighbor has every right to complain! yeoman6987 Sep 2014 #80
Not a parent, but physical force can be used without spanking. moriah Sep 2014 #81
That is a tough one. I go with firmness and removal. riqster Sep 2014 #83
I have a few thoughts gollygee Sep 2014 #84
My Mom used fear as a tactic... kentuck Sep 2014 #85
Check with your local agencies for free parenting classes. peace13 Sep 2014 #86
Our parents always grounded us to our rooms notadmblnd Sep 2014 #87
it all starts with you librechik Sep 2014 #88
Taking away privileges in the middle of a screaming fit is unlikely to work because winter is coming Sep 2014 #89
Thank you all for the advice. It helps peabody Sep 2014 #90
My original response has a know-it-all tone and I want to apologize for that. I'm wishing you Brickbat Sep 2014 #91
If I had to recommend a "parenting manual" to anyone, it'd probably be that Parent Survival Training moriah Sep 2014 #93
Another book suggestion gollygee Sep 2014 #94
Does your local municipality have one of these? Glassunion Sep 2014 #95
Pick her up carry her to her room GitRDun Sep 2014 #96
MOST if not all of these solutions STILL.. STILL require something "physical" to happen... uponit7771 Sep 2014 #97
Not my solution. I disagree that something physical has to happen. n/t Avalux Sep 2014 #104
I might suggest... jberryhill Sep 2014 #102
Pat on your back tazkcmo Sep 2014 #105
K and R for the reasons you site. thucythucy Sep 2014 #110
That's an extreme reaction. Feral Child Sep 2014 #109
She does get extreme but right now peabody Sep 2014 #113
I understand your position. Feral Child Sep 2014 #114
Please do file in the back of your mind MadrasT Sep 2014 #118
Perhaps this. SoCalDem Sep 2014 #111
You didn't reason logically enough customerserviceguy Sep 2014 #121
First, I don't have kids TorchTheWitch Sep 2014 #122
brave post marym625 Sep 2014 #123
You should have done this U4ikLefty Sep 2014 #124
Parenting isn't easy Dorian Gray Sep 2014 #125
What should you do? Let your kids play minecraft sometimes. No, Seriously. Warren DeMontague Sep 2014 #127
LOL gollygee Sep 2014 #129
Totally. Warren DeMontague Sep 2014 #131
My kids don't watch TV either gollygee Sep 2014 #132
Except now my kids flip out Codeine Sep 2014 #139
Have a friend ready on such occasions Shankapotomus Sep 2014 #128
It sounds like you need to take back control of your own home first. avebury Sep 2014 #133
call... boston bean Sep 2014 #138
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