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Qutzupalotl

(14,230 posts)
47. I’ve been on both sides of this.
Fri Apr 3, 2015, 06:01 PM
Apr 2015

Growing up, I had extreme buck teeth, making it difficult to close my mouth. People would point and laugh to my face as soon as they met me. I hated them, all the more so because of the way they made me hate myself. I felt hopeless and worthless. I remember being 8 years old, walking down the street — I would turn and look away whenever a car would pass by, so my face wouldn’t ruin anyone’s day.

Then I got braces — which made things even worse for a while! But once they came off, I noticed people treated me differently. Instead of shunning me, they included me, and a few even looked up to me. Girls started to like me, which I thought would never happen; but deep down, I never felt worthy of their attention.

Gradually, I became like other people, but I never forgot how horribly I was treated growing up. I still find it hard to forgive them, but time helps me forget. Hearing stories such as yours brings back all that outrage.

I was lucky; I got a reprieve. Despite all this, I am ashamed to say I have no wisdom to impart to you. All I can say is what I say to everybody, just try to be as kind as possible to everyone, and do the best you can. As others here have said, the people who torment you are showing their own ugliness; let them keep it.

There are a few kind souls who can look past appearances instead of piling on an already difficult life. But I think most people react to faces as though they were their own, being happy around the beautiful and recoiling from the ugly. It seems as though everyone judges you based on whether they want to sleep with you. Even after what I went through, I catch myself doing it too. I suppose that it’s human nature, that there is some biological imperative behind it; but for a supposedly evolved, intelligent being, this cruelty is a disgrace.

The Constant Pain Of Being Ugly. [View all] mylye2222 Apr 2015 OP
Hey...I ain't Fucking Brad Pitt myself.... trumad Apr 2015 #1
You are not the ugly one, wendylaroux Apr 2015 #2
I agree completely, cwydro Apr 2015 #33
/\_/\_This right here_/\_/\ Scuba Apr 2015 #48
+100 F4lconF16 Apr 2015 #51
You know who you are on the inside. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Apr 2015 #3
A quote I love: H2O Man Apr 2015 #4
I'm sorry you feel this way. There are no 'ugly' people on the sinkingfeeling Apr 2015 #5
Some of the most beautiful people on the outside are very ugly on the inside dissentient Apr 2015 #6
most beautiful people are ugly under the make up mopinko Apr 2015 #8
I'm sorry you're feeling so awful Bettie Apr 2015 #7
A video by a woman called "the world's ugliest woman." I think you'll love her. I know I do. femmedem Apr 2015 #9
She is wonderful, thanks! MBS Apr 2015 #22
She's great! cwydro Apr 2015 #34
Hers is a light that cannot and will not ever hifiguy Apr 2015 #38
Nothing ugly about her Egnever Apr 2015 #42
Look at how well you write in English libodem Apr 2015 #10
Please don't let those people get you down riderinthestorm Apr 2015 #11
I'm sorry you are having a bad day, and that you feel down about yourself. Quantess Apr 2015 #12
Don't give up. My best to you. rhett o rick Apr 2015 #13
Maybe not Depaysement Apr 2015 #14
Beauty is on the inside! My Good Babushka Apr 2015 #15
(((mylye2222))) Arugula Latte Apr 2015 #16
Please Don't Listen to Them NikolaC Apr 2015 #17
Pretty is as pretty does. That is an old folk saying from my family. raging moderate Apr 2015 #18
I love you XXXXX safeinOhio Apr 2015 #19
I hope you have some family around? DebJ Apr 2015 #20
Yes I do. mylye2222 Apr 2015 #23
I had a dear friend who had Marphens. RebelOne Apr 2015 #25
Wow. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. DebJ Apr 2015 #57
One is not ugly if they are beautiful on the inside. That is all that counts. leftofcool Apr 2015 #21
Sorry that you are in pain. Consider seeing a professional as to your depression, closeupready Apr 2015 #24
Hi mylye, I hope you found a better place to live and am sorry you are still having uppityperson Apr 2015 #26
i think must be your nice self treestar Apr 2015 #27
But you still have the most important thing of all malaise Apr 2015 #28
Pay no mind to people who don't deserve your respect or time. Seriously. CoffeeCat Apr 2015 #29
+1000 awoke_in_2003 Apr 2015 #49
You might benefit from professional help if upaloopa Apr 2015 #30
. Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2015 #31
Beautifully said Tuesday. cwydro Apr 2015 #35
My beloved Aunt Jeannie mcar Apr 2015 #32
Not everyone has the gift of beauty TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #36
This is very true. For example, I've come to realize that when I think of someone's height I tend to Chathamization Apr 2015 #56
Hugs to you mylye. dawg Apr 2015 #37
many good wishes and hugs to you! steve2470 Apr 2015 #39
What are your job skills, if that is ok to ask? You should not have to endure such shallow Jefferson23 Apr 2015 #40
Mylye2222... Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #41
+1 I wish I could have written that. hifiguy Apr 2015 #45
Thank you so much, hifiguy. Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #46
Here is a bright side... Boxerfan Apr 2015 #43
Real ugly is on the inside. bemildred Apr 2015 #44
I’ve been on both sides of this. Qutzupalotl Apr 2015 #47
We're social creatures. It is difficult to love yourself despite hate from elsewhere. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2015 #50
It's lousy being depressed. raven mad Apr 2015 #52
Whoa Whoa Whoa... I'm Sorry mylye2222... But Please... Consider This... WillyT Apr 2015 #53
I don't know exactly what to say AndreaCG Apr 2015 #54
I'm wondering if pipi_k Apr 2015 #55
I am so sorry you are hurting and that people can be so cruel Liberal_in_LA Apr 2015 #58
kick back to top Liberal_in_LA Apr 2015 #59
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