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In reply to the discussion: They Dared Me to Post This... [View all]BainsBane
(53,026 posts)Seriously?. No, you aren't in it together. You have told the OP her experience with racism is wrong, that she is ignorant for believing she experiences racism and you know more about it. What you mean is YOU are in this and the rest have to tow your line. You are not discussing race honestly. You are performing privilege and telling people of color their experiences don't matter.
You don't know the first thing about what it's like to face racism and pretending you do is hubris. There is no way in hell I am in this with you, and if you read the AA group you would know many of them aren't in it with you either, and responses like those in this thread are exactly why. An honest discussion of race does not amount to telling a person of color her experiences are uninformed or ignorant. What that shows is an incredible level of contempt for the lives and views of anyone but yourselves. You assume you know what is best for others, but you refuse to even acknowledge their rights to discuss their own experiences with racism. If you continue to treat people this way and you will find fewer and fewer people in this with you.
I have never in my life encountered such reactionary views on race and gender among people pretending to be on the left. It is shocking. No where in my community, in no Democratic party meeting, would anyone behave this way. You all are living in the mid-20th century and have no desire to relate to the citizenry as it exists today. The ignorance is entirely on the part of people here telling this woman of color she is "uninformed" about what it is like to be black in America and it is cavernous. Like every self-entitled group, you assume you know what is best for others, when you don't even grant their right to speak about their own lives and concerns. You expect everyone to fall in line around your goals. This is exactly the kind of shit I was talking about in my OP on defenses of misogyny. You all repeatedly dismiss the concerns of others and then claim we are in this together? There is no We. There is YOU, what you all want and your assumption that the rest of us should do your bidding. Hell no. Not in this lifetime. Those days are long over and if you aren't going to figure out how to relate to people of different backgrounds without dismissing their lives and concerns, you will find few want to be in this with you.