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IronLionZion

(45,256 posts)
6. That's what I think as well
Mon Jul 20, 2015, 08:04 AM
Jul 2015

The dude doesn't sound like he had much choice in the matter and he never mentions his dates or even female friendship. I suppose someone needs to care for their kids.

I had a partner who decided to have a polyamorous open relationship where she was the only one who knew we were in such a relationship (lied and kept it hidden from me). I did think it was a bit odd that she would not let me have any female platonic friends and was constantly jealous and suspicious of my classmates.

Staying with her after I found out the truth was still the worst mistake I have ever made in my life. A year later, I had enough and decided to liberate her from my patriarchal oppression. I got to hear a lot about how men get to own women as property and control their sexuality through female genital mutilation and how men will never allow women to have any sexual pleasure at all. All this horrible misogyny didn't stop her from showing up at my door drunk at 2 AM months after we separated. She was also twice my age and a professor at my college.

If it works for this couple, then great. If it were me, I would never want to be with such a person ever again.

She sounds like the kind of woman I wouldn't want to be and he sounds like Nuclear Unicorn Jul 2015 #1
That's my take as well IronLionZion Jul 2015 #7
If it works for them, who am I to object? TreasonousBastard Jul 2015 #2
I think... Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jul 2015 #3
"Feminism always comes back to sex" geek tragedy Jul 2015 #4
I'm happy for them in their open marriage Gormy Cuss Jul 2015 #42
As someone who has been in open relationships before TM99 Jul 2015 #5
That's what I think as well IronLionZion Jul 2015 #6
honesty,self-awareness and equality are crucial in any relationship, and especially in an open one. GliderGuider Jul 2015 #8
My first marriage started out with those qualities, TM99 Jul 2015 #10
Mine was open from the start, which was a good thing. GliderGuider Jul 2015 #18
Yes, we were as well from the start. TM99 Jul 2015 #19
Sounds to me like you've got a good grip on what makes for healthy relationships. GliderGuider Jul 2015 #22
Very well said. TM99 Jul 2015 #23
Thank you for posting. Yo_Mama Jul 2015 #14
Dear Penthouse... onehandle Jul 2015 #9
Exactly. Cuckold fetish. AngryAmish Jul 2015 #13
I have no problem with the sharing part but Shankapotomus Jul 2015 #11
I object to this being called feminism. Yo_Mama Jul 2015 #12
I think he clearly loves HER, and I hope she loves him just as much, in the end. lostnfound Jul 2015 #15
A wife committing adultery does not equate with feminism. ladyVet Jul 2015 #16
I think this is satire or fiction to feed the MRA nonsense. RadiationTherapy Jul 2015 #17
Exactly. Yavin4 Jul 2015 #28
+1,000,000! MADem Jul 2015 #35
I thought the same thing. kcr Jul 2015 #43
Right. Why didn't we see this before? bemildred Jul 2015 #20
I don't wade into gender controversies on DU. closeupready Jul 2015 #21
Admirable libodem Jul 2015 #25
Wisdom borne of DU's nonstop civil board wars... closeupready Jul 2015 #29
Yep libodem Jul 2015 #32
Gross. When did DU turn into "Swingers Underground"? Romulox Jul 2015 #24
Dear Democratic Underground Forum CBGLuthier Jul 2015 #26
Open Marriage has little or nothing to do with Feminism Yavin4 Jul 2015 #27
Exactly shenmue Jul 2015 #30
That's my take on it, too. nt Nay Jul 2015 #36
Fiction. What name does he publish his ebooks under? Hekate Jul 2015 #31
Quantum mechanics offers a good explanation for this sense of isolation Orrex Jul 2015 #33
You do realize that is the same as three brazillion.... madinmaryland Jul 2015 #44
Sounds like a letter that was rejected from "Dear Penthouse Forum." nt MADem Jul 2015 #34
These young people today won't get that reference Yavin4 Jul 2015 #37
Those whippersnappers will just have to do the google and see if they can figure it out!! MADem Jul 2015 #40
Seems like a cuckold fetish Prism Jul 2015 #38
This has to be a right-wing parody of a "liberal feminist male" ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jul 2015 #39
I'm impressed by the responses to this thread IronLionZion Jul 2015 #41
I bet this is a spoof irisblue Jul 2015 #45
"Diaper bag notwithstanding, I was still a Man." Skittles Jul 2015 #46
Relationships are not easy RobertEarl Jul 2015 #47
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