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In reply to the discussion: What Open Marriage Taught One Man About Feminism [View all]IronLionZion
(45,256 posts)The dude doesn't sound like he had much choice in the matter and he never mentions his dates or even female friendship. I suppose someone needs to care for their kids.
I had a partner who decided to have a polyamorous open relationship where she was the only one who knew we were in such a relationship (lied and kept it hidden from me). I did think it was a bit odd that she would not let me have any female platonic friends and was constantly jealous and suspicious of my classmates.
Staying with her after I found out the truth was still the worst mistake I have ever made in my life. A year later, I had enough and decided to liberate her from my patriarchal oppression. I got to hear a lot about how men get to own women as property and control their sexuality through female genital mutilation and how men will never allow women to have any sexual pleasure at all. All this horrible misogyny didn't stop her from showing up at my door drunk at 2 AM months after we separated. She was also twice my age and a professor at my college.
If it works for this couple, then great. If it were me, I would never want to be with such a person ever again.