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In reply to the discussion: Do fathers still expect to be asked permission to marry their daughter? Is this a sexist tradition? [View all]oberliner
(58,724 posts)95. Polite disinterest is the order of the day?
That is idiotic. Parents should take an interest in whom their kids are dating.
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Do fathers still expect to be asked permission to marry their daughter? Is this a sexist tradition? [View all]
davidn3600
Dec 2015
OP
I was called for the jury, but the user had been removed by the time I got to the post. But ...
Scuba
Dec 2015
#30
I don't understand why people think it's cute or fun to read horrifically sexist opinions here.
PeaceNikki
Dec 2015
#45
I'm thinking his intent was to hit certain points that he knew would get people going.
PersonNumber503602
Dec 2015
#35
Women have a bad name because of Nikki? I'm guessing you don't go out on a lot of second dates.
DisgustipatedinCA
Dec 2015
#21
Can new users alert? Didn't he come back (or at least friend) in this same thread?
PersonNumber503602
Dec 2015
#57
I'm not sure if you can alert right away, but he did reregister immediately, even admitted so
PeaceNikki
Dec 2015
#59
What I want to know is who the hell are these "DUers" who alert on a woman defending herself ....
Hekate
Dec 2015
#120
Definitely old.fashioned and sexist...Stems from concept of women as property. n/t
whathehell
Dec 2015
#3
As a father of two exceptional daughters I do not expect to be asked for my permission
randr
Dec 2015
#31
Some women want someone to walk them down the aisle because it works better for them that way
Warren DeMontague
Dec 2015
#91
During our wedding, my wife's parents got lost on the way to walk her down the aisle.
Warren DeMontague
Dec 2015
#112
Hmmm. About that career... and only because it reminds me of my younger sis....
Hekate
Dec 2015
#122
I asked for my future Father-in-law's BLESSING, not for his daughter.
cherokeeprogressive
Dec 2015
#81
Short answer? No, no more than I would expect the guy to show up with 3 goats.
Warren DeMontague
Dec 2015
#89
Do you apply that sentiment consistently, and refrain from saying, "my son..."
LanternWaste
Dec 2015
#134
I have a 21 year old daughter who is in a serious relationship with someone and they have talked
liberal_at_heart
Dec 2015
#104
If just the father is asked for a blessing, that's still sexist and fucked up.
Arugula Latte
Dec 2015
#109
But do you ever see the woman asking her boyfriend's family for their blessing?
davidn3600
Dec 2015
#113
Should a woman ask her boyfriend's mother for permission for the son to marry?
Squinch
Dec 2015
#130
I've never known anyone to "ask" a father for permission to marry their daughter in the USA.
ileus
Dec 2015
#132
In my family it's done. But not necessarily father, but the person who raised you.
vaberella
Dec 2015
#137
I think asking both parents for a blessing is one thing, but asking just the father for "permission"
Arugula Latte
Jan 2016
#146