Is anyone here familiar with NVC- Non-violent Communication? a method

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4. totally agree with you. I also find it feels forced, rote, and inauthentic...

It is sup'd to foster empathy, but in some cases it can do just the opposite.
I think empathy comes from the person, it is a character trait, it can not be adopted as a formula. nvc implies that if I say. "...." then that is being empathetic.

but it isn't. I also felt manipulated by my friend and condescended to.

my idea is that nvc attracts people who are insecure, it gives them a group to belong to, and they can feel superior to the rest of us.
I actually found that in words stated on the site of someone who id promoting nvc.
People who do not do nvc are "less skilled" in communicating. !
yeah right.
that's why my friend who does nvc has no friends in the world except me, and that is not going very well.

this is a quote from a critic of nvc, which I totally agree with:

Soft words couched with violence are harder to identify, especially when the person uttering them is convinced that their language is not violent.
Whenever somebody starts spouting about projections, mirrors and pseudo-psychology my alarm bells go off. Such an individual is, for me, a well-intentioned individual with whom I cannot communicate.
For me, such language is the height of inconsiderate relationship.

When a person starts the holier than thou speech about projection or mirroring, I wonder if they are aware of the other aspects present. Before such words occur, something non-spiritual happens. A judgment. An assumption. And most assuredly, an absence of listening or understanding.