The scenario is a bit different than the typical finding a donor father I have mostly run across. (Frankly, I haven't found anyone else who "randomly" donated to the same genetic matching service as their biological parent and found a direct parent-child match. Typically, the donorsiblings find each other and/or piece things together via finding other blood relatives. Dads who don't want to be found typically don't donate - but their kids/parents/siblings who are unaware of what might be uncovered do.)
We don't know why they donated DNA (both husband and wife did). My daughter (wisely) has been letting them call the shots. The only specific request she made was for medical information. They made the initial contact, and they are the ones who suggested s meeting, and then the specific date and circumstances for the meeting, so it is something other than generosity at work here.
As to financial support, if anything, I'm far more concerned that they may attempt to buy her affection if they don't approve of our family. Lifestyle/money seems to be a key difference between their family and ours.
We'll see - it could go a number of different ways! (And as soon as they reached out to us, we had a frank talk with our daughter about the entire range of possibilities.)
(As background, I grew up in a family with adopted siblings. They have all found their parents and siblings. My brother recently died, and two of the last 3 people to spend time with him were his biological mother and his half-sibling. There's biological family, and true family, and they don't always stay in their own separate boxes. Sometimes that works well - other times it doesn't (or goes back and forth between being fantastic and being barely tolerable). My siblings' experience was part of the conversation with our daughter about the variety of ways this could play out.)
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