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Punkingal

(9,522 posts)
35. Bless you for having the courage to share this.
Sat Jul 14, 2012, 07:06 PM
Jul 2012

It has given me the courage to speak up as well.

Two of my sons were abused by my nephew, and I didn't find out until years later because their grandmother told them not to tell anyone, and they didn't. Not even me and their dad. They were 3 and 4 years old at the time of the abuse.

She protected her other grandson at their expense, and they still cannot understand why.

Only now, 30 years later are they able to talk about it with me, and I have no answers for them, only apologies that don't help. I feel tremendous guilt.

Nothing is worse than covering up child rape and there is nothing they can do to Penn State to make up for what those soulless men did. Ask anyone who has been abused, or any parent whose child was abused.

k&r... spanone Jul 2012 #1
It makes excellence ,deadly. Kudos to ya orpupilofnature57 Jul 2012 #2
Your post is full of righteousness. Brickbat Jul 2012 #3
Thank you for your post, Agg. I hope a lot of people read your words pnwmom Jul 2012 #4
In many ways it is difficult to fully understand something unless you have lived it. Happyhippychick Jul 2012 #5
I haven't lived that and still agree entirely Posteritatis Jul 2012 #10
And unfortunatrely, the man who was Attorney General truedelphi Jul 2012 #61
I LOVE that you are! obamanut2012 Jul 2012 #6
K & R freshwest Jul 2012 #7
k and r nashville_brook Jul 2012 #8
sorry about your experience but thanks for sharing that arely staircase Jul 2012 #9
Exact same reason I have zero sympathy for the guy who did this or the many who covered for him. Bettie Jul 2012 #11
I agree. blueamy66 Jul 2012 #69
I'm right there with you lunatica Jul 2012 #12
k and r panader0 Jul 2012 #13
Thanks for sharing your perspective. It is very courageous of you. randome Jul 2012 #14
K&R speedoo Jul 2012 #15
I agree. It's sickening how others are worried about Paterno and don't mention the crime committed gtar100 Jul 2012 #16
Awesome post, 100% behind you and the de-throning of the status quo...nt StopTheNeoCons Jul 2012 #17
K&R. Chorophyll Jul 2012 #18
+1 the Newspeak minimizes the crime LadyHawkAZ Jul 2012 #54
k&r nt steve2470 Jul 2012 #19
K&R friendly_iconoclast Jul 2012 #20
Excellent points Agg. I could give a rats tail about Paterno's legacy. bluesbassman Jul 2012 #21
Absolutely agree with you. Major Hogwash Jul 2012 #22
According to some.. CANDO Jul 2012 #28
Wait! Whut?! Are_grits_groceries Jul 2012 #59
Ah yes, the pouncing begins. CANDO Jul 2012 #66
Meh! Are_grits_groceries Jul 2012 #78
Because I had enough. CANDO Jul 2012 #81
On Meet the Press, Bob Costas said Penn State will probably suspend their football program. Major Hogwash Jul 2012 #79
I hope they dont kill the football program. I think that would be a distraction. Human beings need rhett o rick Jul 2012 #31
I'm sorry people are so heartless and stupid, grits... Whisp Jul 2012 #23
. myrna minx Jul 2012 #24
Its because this terrible situation calls for a hard-ass response riderinthestorm Jul 2012 #25
"tide of demand for complete change" hfojvt Jul 2012 #26
When people *witnessed* the abuse, the "kids were not believed" claim becomes ridiculous. (nt) Posteritatis Jul 2012 #41
Thank you for fighting Ilsa Jul 2012 #27
What no one is really talking about in regards to this situation justiceischeap Jul 2012 #29
harsh NCAA sanctions demanded dothemath Jul 2012 #53
To hell with Paterno's "legacy"... richmwill Jul 2012 #30
I am so proud of your articles on this entire scandal malaise Jul 2012 #32
Thank you for the OP and I hope you fully recover from your ordeal. rhett o rick Jul 2012 #33
I am so sorry that you were abused riverbendviewgal Jul 2012 #34
Bless you for having the courage to share this. Punkingal Jul 2012 #35
I'm so sorry for what your family is going through, redqueen Jul 2012 #44
Amen DonCoquixote Jul 2012 #36
K&R aquart Jul 2012 #37
Thank you. DeSwiss Jul 2012 #38
thank you for this post LiberalLoner Jul 2012 #39
K&R D23MIURG23 Jul 2012 #40
THANK YOU! redqueen Jul 2012 #42
k&r Liberal_in_LA Jul 2012 #43
It was done to the woman I was married to...repeatedly... Ken Burch Jul 2012 #45
Excellent sandyshoes17 Jul 2012 #46
My reading time is precious these days.....reading exhausts me tpsbmam Jul 2012 #47
+1! I have NO sympathy for Penn State and it's fans. Fuck them. Odin2005 Jul 2012 #48
The most corrupting force sulphurdunn Jul 2012 #49
You don't have to explain a thing to me. MADem Jul 2012 #50
I am a mother of two boys one cindyperry2010 Jul 2012 #51
I applaud your courage to speak out. chervilant Jul 2012 #52
maybe things will change when PSU gatta settle with the lawsuits coming soon... opihimoimoi Jul 2012 #55
k&r DesertRat Jul 2012 #56
hugs to you RainDog Jul 2012 #57
I remember the 1960s when people would not want to DebJ Jul 2012 #58
The danger of sports press monopolies and blacklisting Gabby Hayes Jul 2012 #60
Another lesson--becoming a survivor is far easier if you have supportive adults who eridani Jul 2012 #62
I'm so sorry for what happened to you. BeliQueen Jul 2012 #63
K&R SalmonChantedEvening Jul 2012 #64
I understand and agree totally efilon Jul 2012 #65
hard ass is the only reasonable response barbtries Jul 2012 #67
Thank you KeepItReal Jul 2012 #68
You are right. They_Live Jul 2012 #70
Then you'll be very happy about these responses rocktivity Jul 2012 #71
Thank you... Freedomofspeech Jul 2012 #72
Great post. Thanks RVN VET Jul 2012 #73
I'm so sorry that this happened to you, and I agree with every word of your post. yardwork Jul 2012 #74
Said it before and will say it again and again... sad sally Jul 2012 #75
I am so sorry. Parents today are more alert to the problems of JDPriestly Jul 2012 #76
Hey, grits - you don't have to explain or apologize about this to anyone. calimary Jul 2012 #77
I was a victim also, Grits rurallib Jul 2012 #80
excellent post. it was a lesson for youngest son. he went thru all the rationalizations. and we seabeyond Jul 2012 #82
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