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niyad

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15. I am so glad you weren't hurt.

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Wed Sep 13, 2017, 02:41 PM

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Stalking, actually: why men who reject rejection are not romantic heroes [View all] niyad Sep 2017 OP

Stalking is scary and dangerous. Are_grits_groceries Sep 2017 #1

I don't know if you are old enough to remember this case: niyad Sep 2017 #4

I remember all of that. leftyladyfrommo Sep 2017 #6

Young girl or young woman? Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2017 #37

She was a teen when she started acting Hekate Sep 2017 #50

Worse, she opened the door b/c she thought he was delivering a script that had been sent over to her anneboleyn Sep 2017 #55

Oh lord yes. Are_grits_groceries Sep 2017 #29

Happy to k and r. nt cwydro Sep 2017 #2

I hate stalkers. What an awful thing to do to someone! MineralMan Sep 2017 #3

see, there you go, being rational again. I have seen so many of these stories, and what niyad Sep 2017 #5

Stalkers are wedded to fantasy the same way the religious zealots Warpy Sep 2017 #32

I had a stalker one time. leftyladyfrommo Sep 2017 #7

terrifying indeed. how did it finally stop?? were you hurt? niyad Sep 2017 #9

I can't remember how I lost him. leftyladyfrommo Sep 2017 #14

I am so glad you weren't hurt. niyad Sep 2017 #15

There were always people around. leftyladyfrommo Sep 2017 #21

K&R. The entitlement is horrifying and we're fed it every day from childhood. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2017 #8

excellent graphic niyad Sep 2017 #12

What about internet stalkers? DemocratSinceBirth Sep 2017 #10

do you think they are less, more, or equally dangerous? niyad Sep 2017 #11

As long as their stalking is confined to the internet they are less dangerous. DemocratSinceBirth Sep 2017 #13

A little off topic, but why was Love Actually cited? Ilsa Sep 2017 #16

Because he did that weird cue card thing putting her in a bizarre position.... bettyellen Sep 2017 #19

Where did she ever say she was creeped out by it? Blue_Adept Sep 2017 #36

Well that's the part that's unrealistic, to be honest. Anyone who saw his film would be creeped out bettyellen Sep 2017 #40

She already knew from earlier when she looked at the wedding videos. Ilsa Sep 2017 #43

I'm saying the videotaping and the cue cards were OTT weird and it's not great that movies bettyellen Sep 2017 #48

Yeah, weird, but not stalking. nt Ilsa Sep 2017 #65

Agreed it isn't technically stalking but also- super red flaggy stuff. To be obsessed bettyellen Sep 2017 #66

What about THIS "romantic" guy? Binkie The Clown Sep 2017 #17

Why should the discussion be limited to male stalkers? Ligyron Sep 2017 #18

What are the movies where stalky women are portrayed as heroines? bettyellen Sep 2017 #20

You're right. Ligyron Sep 2017 #25

And of course, there's "The Crush" (nt) ehrnst Sep 2017 #33

Nope- the weird stalky behavior is not glorified in that movie. Big difference. bettyellen Sep 2017 #51

Exactly - I'm pointing that female stalking is not portrayed as romantic in movies. (tn) ehrnst Sep 2017 #52

It is either a joke OR a partial punishment for sexual transgression (Fatal Attraction, The Crush) anneboleyn Sep 2017 #57

There's some Sex in the City episodes meadowlander Sep 2017 #26

I thought Carrie was embarrassed her mistrust led her to such things? bettyellen Sep 2017 #27

I saw "Sixteen Candles" for the first time the other day. Disgusting! betsuni Sep 2017 #54

Half of Taylor Swift's discography? RhodeIslandOne Sep 2017 #45

Her MO is date him dump him write a song crazycatlady Sep 2017 #64

A chunk of her early songs use the "nice guy" trope, but from the woman's perspective. RhodeIslandOne Sep 2017 #67

Have you heard her latest? crazycatlady Sep 2017 #69

I'm not feeling the new stuff yet RhodeIslandOne Sep 2017 #70

Not "heroines," but people laugh at the idea of women "stalking" men in the same way that anneboleyn Sep 2017 #56

None of the movies you mentioned make light of women staking- they're portrayed as dangerous! bettyellen Sep 2017 #58

thank you. I had been thinking that. so glad you pointed it out. niyad Sep 2017 #59

I'm not sure people got it -Fatal Attraction was a horror not a romance! bettyellen Sep 2017 #62

One of my classmates had to get a restraining order against another classmate meadowlander Sep 2017 #24

and this actually starts very young--when a little girl complains because a little boy is pulling niyad Sep 2017 #60

But they are portrayed in popular entertainment as creepy, or laughable, not as romantic leads ehrnst Sep 2017 #34

"Legally Blonde" is one I remember.... RhodeIslandOne Sep 2017 #47

Yes, that moves towards it - however the movie shows her finding happiness when she stops ehrnst Sep 2017 #53

Add: throwing acid in the face of the woman who rejected you. keithbvadu2 Sep 2017 #22

When has someone who did that Mariana Sep 2017 #71

In their own mind. keithbvadu2 Sep 2017 #73

Great stalker novel: YOU by Caroline Kepnes bluepen Sep 2017 #23

These losers ruin it for everyone IronLionZion Sep 2017 #28

A similar theme here: CrispyQ Sep 2017 #30

thank you. very important points. niyad Sep 2017 #61

The story of the 8 dead people - going after her family. CrispyQ Sep 2017 #63

Just speaking for my own experience. . Permanut Sep 2017 #31

Bad Analogies make bad arguments Podkayne K Sep 2017 #35

Almost nothing from TV, especially sitcoms, or the majority of romantic comedies Blue_Adept Sep 2017 #39

TOTALLY AGREE! Podkayne K Sep 2017 #42

BBT is an easy target, low hanging fruit. Blue_Adept Sep 2017 #44

Last Reply! Podkayne K Sep 2017 #46

Women go thru so much BS Johnny2X2X Sep 2017 #38

K&R Scurrilous Sep 2017 #41

Many women fall into the narrative that a guy who does take no nadine_mn Sep 2017 #49

This is why romantic comedies are usually terrible. Willie Pep Sep 2017 #68

No mention of Twilight? uppityperson Sep 2017 #72