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In reply to the discussion: Stalking, actually: why men who reject rejection are not romantic heroes [View all]Permanut
(5,558 posts)31. Just speaking for my own experience. .
as a 71 year old male, stalking by women and stalking by men are not even remotely equivalent. My little partner and I have been together for thirty years, and no one has touched her without her permission in all those years.
Wasn't the same in the beginning though; I bought a gun and persuaded her stalker to move a thousand miles away. As far as I know, he hasn't been back.
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Stalking, actually: why men who reject rejection are not romantic heroes [View all]
niyad
Sep 2017
OP
Worse, she opened the door b/c she thought he was delivering a script that had been sent over to her
anneboleyn
Sep 2017
#55
see, there you go, being rational again. I have seen so many of these stories, and what
niyad
Sep 2017
#5
K&R. The entitlement is horrifying and we're fed it every day from childhood.
WhiskeyGrinder
Sep 2017
#8
As long as their stalking is confined to the internet they are less dangerous.
DemocratSinceBirth
Sep 2017
#13
Because he did that weird cue card thing putting her in a bizarre position....
bettyellen
Sep 2017
#19
Well that's the part that's unrealistic, to be honest. Anyone who saw his film would be creeped out
bettyellen
Sep 2017
#40
I'm saying the videotaping and the cue cards were OTT weird and it's not great that movies
bettyellen
Sep 2017
#48
Agreed it isn't technically stalking but also- super red flaggy stuff. To be obsessed
bettyellen
Sep 2017
#66
Nope- the weird stalky behavior is not glorified in that movie. Big difference.
bettyellen
Sep 2017
#51
Exactly - I'm pointing that female stalking is not portrayed as romantic in movies. (tn)
ehrnst
Sep 2017
#52
It is either a joke OR a partial punishment for sexual transgression (Fatal Attraction, The Crush)
anneboleyn
Sep 2017
#57
A chunk of her early songs use the "nice guy" trope, but from the woman's perspective.
RhodeIslandOne
Sep 2017
#67
Not "heroines," but people laugh at the idea of women "stalking" men in the same way that
anneboleyn
Sep 2017
#56
None of the movies you mentioned make light of women staking- they're portrayed as dangerous!
bettyellen
Sep 2017
#58
One of my classmates had to get a restraining order against another classmate
meadowlander
Sep 2017
#24
and this actually starts very young--when a little girl complains because a little boy is pulling
niyad
Sep 2017
#60
But they are portrayed in popular entertainment as creepy, or laughable, not as romantic leads
ehrnst
Sep 2017
#34
Yes, that moves towards it - however the movie shows her finding happiness when she stops
ehrnst
Sep 2017
#53
Almost nothing from TV, especially sitcoms, or the majority of romantic comedies
Blue_Adept
Sep 2017
#39