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pnwmom

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39. Has a boss ever complimented you on your appearance
Mon Oct 16, 2017, 06:55 PM
Oct 2017

even though he wouldn't compliment a man?

About the "me too." [View all] Neema Oct 2017 OP
Pure luck. B2G Oct 2017 #1
I am. I don't mean to imply otherwise. Neema Oct 2017 #36
There's no formula. MineralMan Oct 2017 #2
Thanks. You're right I'm sure. Neema Oct 2017 #37
You're lucky and also possibly not totally aware of your surroundings. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #3
Definitely always aware of my surroundings. For the first ten years I lived in the city I Neema Oct 2017 #21
Fair enough. I apologize for discounting your experience. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #50
No worries. Thanks. Neema Oct 2017 #61
Luck, and I'm happy for you. mountain grammy Oct 2017 #4
Lucky you (and I do not mean that sarcastically) Maeve Oct 2017 #5
I'm sorry for what you experienced Maeve. Neema Oct 2017 #29
In some respects, I'm not sorry Maeve Oct 2017 #54
What field are you in? Where do you live? TBA Oct 2017 #6
I live in a blue state, in a big city. I'm in a field that is probably closer to equal though Neema Oct 2017 #34
Rapists do select their targets. Ms. Toad Oct 2017 #7
I was teased mercilessly as Neema Oct 2017 #27
You've never been whistled at, or told by a stranger to smile b/c you're prettier that way? Demit Oct 2017 #8
And, it never ends. GoCubsGo Oct 2017 #9
Right, yes, the bra snapping. Now you got me thinking back to when I was that age... Demit Oct 2017 #16
Doubt all you want but I haven't been. And I commuted everywhere by public transportation for years. Neema Oct 2017 #14
Wow, none of those things ever happened to you? Demit Oct 2017 #17
No. None of them have ever happened to me. Neema Oct 2017 #20
Beautiful. Iggo Oct 2017 #10
Why? I don't have a right to ask a question? Neema Oct 2017 #18
You have every right to ask questions. Iggo Oct 2017 #23
Okay, but the face palm suggests you thought the rest of what I wrote was Neema Oct 2017 #25
The face palm indicates what I thought about everything from "But" forward. Iggo Oct 2017 #52
Oh okay then. Neema Oct 2017 #64
Crystal. Iggo Oct 2017 #67
You were lucky. I face sexual harassment a few times and an attempted rape. Demsrule86 Oct 2017 #11
I'm so sorry you experienced that. Neema Oct 2017 #47
I am sorry too...and that my daughter faces the same risks. I wish I could have done more to right Demsrule86 Oct 2017 #55
Sounds like you feel alone in not being a victim of abuse. chowder66 Oct 2017 #12
I'm sorry, I don't mean to unnerve everyone. I guess I find it unnerving myself to Neema Oct 2017 #19
Have you never walked down a street and had men make sounds at you or suggestive comments? pnwmom Oct 2017 #32
Nope. Not once. I've seen it happen many times to other women but Neema Oct 2017 #38
Has a boss ever complimented you on your appearance pnwmom Oct 2017 #39
No male boss or client has ever once complimented me on my appearance. Neema Oct 2017 #43
Then it looks like you are lucky. chowder66 Oct 2017 #49
Sheesh, Enough RobinA Oct 2017 #58
I read that part. Thanks. chowder66 Oct 2017 #59
None of those things. Neema Oct 2017 #62
I really do think you are one of the lucky ones. chowder66 Oct 2017 #68
No worries. I was kinda feeling like an alien which is Neema Oct 2017 #70
Pure luck peggysue2 Oct 2017 #13
I'm neither complaining nor boasting, just puzzled. Neema Oct 2017 #24
I apologize, Neema peggysue2 Oct 2017 #53
I didn't necessarily think you were suggesting it, but I wanted to make it clear. Neema Oct 2017 #63
Not sure ismnotwasm Oct 2017 #15
Same here. cwydro Oct 2017 #26
Yeah its pretty weird ismnotwasm Oct 2017 #40
It usually happens to me in the gym. cwydro Oct 2017 #41
I have not encountered much either treestar Oct 2017 #22
I'm glad for you. And sorry that so many do not share Neema Oct 2017 #31
I was in the Military Siwsan Oct 2017 #28
I can imagine it would be epidemic in the military or any environment where Neema Oct 2017 #30
Me too. cwydro Oct 2017 #42
1977 - 1984 Siwsan Oct 2017 #44
I was 17 when I went into Basic. cwydro Oct 2017 #48
Statistics maybe. mahina Oct 2017 #33
Thanks mahina. Neema Oct 2017 #35
I agree that you've been incredibly lucky, but cyclonefence Oct 2017 #45
Someone else wrote that they carried themselves differently after being attacked and Neema Oct 2017 #46
Maybe its your work environment JI7 Oct 2017 #51
I had an issue with a boyfriend, but haven't been harassed at work or in school adigal Oct 2017 #56
I guess a lot of it is just statistics Neema Oct 2017 #66
This message was self-deleted by its author MerryBlooms Oct 2017 #57
My Guess Leith Oct 2017 #60
Ha! I like your story about seeing yourself in the window. Neema Oct 2017 #65
You just might not realize that you have been. alarimer Oct 2017 #69
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