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Siwsan

(26,177 posts)
44. 1977 - 1984
Mon Oct 16, 2017, 07:18 PM
Oct 2017

It happened when I was an "A" school instructor and when I was doing clinic work. Stateside and overseas.

When I reported one of the incidents, I was told "Oh, he just likes you and is trying to get your attention." He was my immediate superior at the clinic.

It was inappropriate, on all levels. That kind of predator enabling helped me decide to not re-enlist.

About the "me too." [View all] Neema Oct 2017 OP
Pure luck. B2G Oct 2017 #1
I am. I don't mean to imply otherwise. Neema Oct 2017 #36
There's no formula. MineralMan Oct 2017 #2
Thanks. You're right I'm sure. Neema Oct 2017 #37
You're lucky and also possibly not totally aware of your surroundings. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #3
Definitely always aware of my surroundings. For the first ten years I lived in the city I Neema Oct 2017 #21
Fair enough. I apologize for discounting your experience. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #50
No worries. Thanks. Neema Oct 2017 #61
Luck, and I'm happy for you. mountain grammy Oct 2017 #4
Lucky you (and I do not mean that sarcastically) Maeve Oct 2017 #5
I'm sorry for what you experienced Maeve. Neema Oct 2017 #29
In some respects, I'm not sorry Maeve Oct 2017 #54
What field are you in? Where do you live? TBA Oct 2017 #6
I live in a blue state, in a big city. I'm in a field that is probably closer to equal though Neema Oct 2017 #34
Rapists do select their targets. Ms. Toad Oct 2017 #7
I was teased mercilessly as Neema Oct 2017 #27
You've never been whistled at, or told by a stranger to smile b/c you're prettier that way? Demit Oct 2017 #8
And, it never ends. GoCubsGo Oct 2017 #9
Right, yes, the bra snapping. Now you got me thinking back to when I was that age... Demit Oct 2017 #16
Doubt all you want but I haven't been. And I commuted everywhere by public transportation for years. Neema Oct 2017 #14
Wow, none of those things ever happened to you? Demit Oct 2017 #17
No. None of them have ever happened to me. Neema Oct 2017 #20
Beautiful. Iggo Oct 2017 #10
Why? I don't have a right to ask a question? Neema Oct 2017 #18
You have every right to ask questions. Iggo Oct 2017 #23
Okay, but the face palm suggests you thought the rest of what I wrote was Neema Oct 2017 #25
The face palm indicates what I thought about everything from "But" forward. Iggo Oct 2017 #52
Oh okay then. Neema Oct 2017 #64
Crystal. Iggo Oct 2017 #67
You were lucky. I face sexual harassment a few times and an attempted rape. Demsrule86 Oct 2017 #11
I'm so sorry you experienced that. Neema Oct 2017 #47
I am sorry too...and that my daughter faces the same risks. I wish I could have done more to right Demsrule86 Oct 2017 #55
Sounds like you feel alone in not being a victim of abuse. chowder66 Oct 2017 #12
I'm sorry, I don't mean to unnerve everyone. I guess I find it unnerving myself to Neema Oct 2017 #19
Have you never walked down a street and had men make sounds at you or suggestive comments? pnwmom Oct 2017 #32
Nope. Not once. I've seen it happen many times to other women but Neema Oct 2017 #38
Has a boss ever complimented you on your appearance pnwmom Oct 2017 #39
No male boss or client has ever once complimented me on my appearance. Neema Oct 2017 #43
Then it looks like you are lucky. chowder66 Oct 2017 #49
Sheesh, Enough RobinA Oct 2017 #58
I read that part. Thanks. chowder66 Oct 2017 #59
None of those things. Neema Oct 2017 #62
I really do think you are one of the lucky ones. chowder66 Oct 2017 #68
No worries. I was kinda feeling like an alien which is Neema Oct 2017 #70
Pure luck peggysue2 Oct 2017 #13
I'm neither complaining nor boasting, just puzzled. Neema Oct 2017 #24
I apologize, Neema peggysue2 Oct 2017 #53
I didn't necessarily think you were suggesting it, but I wanted to make it clear. Neema Oct 2017 #63
Not sure ismnotwasm Oct 2017 #15
Same here. cwydro Oct 2017 #26
Yeah its pretty weird ismnotwasm Oct 2017 #40
It usually happens to me in the gym. cwydro Oct 2017 #41
I have not encountered much either treestar Oct 2017 #22
I'm glad for you. And sorry that so many do not share Neema Oct 2017 #31
I was in the Military Siwsan Oct 2017 #28
I can imagine it would be epidemic in the military or any environment where Neema Oct 2017 #30
Me too. cwydro Oct 2017 #42
1977 - 1984 Siwsan Oct 2017 #44
I was 17 when I went into Basic. cwydro Oct 2017 #48
Statistics maybe. mahina Oct 2017 #33
Thanks mahina. Neema Oct 2017 #35
I agree that you've been incredibly lucky, but cyclonefence Oct 2017 #45
Someone else wrote that they carried themselves differently after being attacked and Neema Oct 2017 #46
Maybe its your work environment JI7 Oct 2017 #51
I had an issue with a boyfriend, but haven't been harassed at work or in school adigal Oct 2017 #56
I guess a lot of it is just statistics Neema Oct 2017 #66
This message was self-deleted by its author MerryBlooms Oct 2017 #57
My Guess Leith Oct 2017 #60
Ha! I like your story about seeing yourself in the window. Neema Oct 2017 #65
You just might not realize that you have been. alarimer Oct 2017 #69
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