I am interested in reading experiences of primary caregivers of a dying parent.

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11. Not primary, but involved as my Dad's wife was at home with him and was a champ

Daily fairly long visits to them to spell her and help along with Hospice, meals, errands, and other kindly tasks.

A time to talk to my parent on the last leg of the journey with good memories as the subjects at hand.

Fortunate that others in the family cared enough to do what they could, most at further distances than I.

Hospice was so helpful and accommodating. The key was his wife, who was the primary.

A halo for you. It is both taxing and rewarding in so many ways as long as you let go of any expectations of how others should help. However, please please please make YOUR needs known in specific ways - cards, money, meals, calls to the parent etc. Make it clear, somehow without demanding, and take what comes --- or doesn't.

This special passage reveals so much about the family -- watch, learn, and celebrate the unexpected grace from those you never expected do do the very best, even if it is very brief.

If someone behaves in an ugly or disappointing way -- an affirmation to let them go along with your parent.