I am interested in reading experiences of primary caregivers of a dying parent.

[imanamerican63]

33. My mother took care of her mother for 3 years. I helped when I could.

My mother was torn with the fact that my grandmother's care at a nursing was adequate and was worried for her health and safety. Back in 2002, my mother, her brother and sisters decided to find my grandmother a nice place that would take care her needs. Having Alzheimer and Dementia, she could not live by herself. They found a great place in the very beginning, but slowly it was not such a good place. She was 88 yrs old when my mother moved her with my mother and I. The task was a bit overwhelming, but my mother never complained and did her very best to make my grandmother's last years as good as possible. My grandmother's condition worsened within a year or so. She fell and broke her hip and after that it was not long before she passed away. My mother often said that she wished she would have had my grandmother living with her sooner. She always felt that my grandmother would have been better care. Although most of the time was pain staking for both of them, My mother did what she thought was the best. My grandmother passed away in 2007. Not much to my story, but if I said everything about what I saw and my mother had to do? I would take me a week to tell everything.

If you are thinking of do this? I will say may God be with you and that it will be a life experience and will possibly a life changing journey. Best of luck.