I am interested in reading experiences of primary caregivers of a dying parent.

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52. I did that. My brother split

My dad was quite mad. My brother moved away. A long ways away. My Mom was alive as well. My Dad went on a few more years, tormenting everyone. No one would stop him. The cops wouldn't arrest him, the judge wouldn't stop him. He refused to be diagnosed. Without diagnosis from a professional, you have no legal recourse.

My Dad died in ,2008. My Mom hobbled for thirty Years, couldn't walk. Stand for long. Was deaf.
She always told me she wanted two years without my Dad. I gave her four.
She was suddenly broke. We had to move. I finally got on IHSS and began to get paid. But that was tough too.

She fly to see my brother. We went to South Carolina, but she broke her leg on her last day there. She recovered but after, in and out of hospitals for heart. She was 87. The last days, I called my brother. He said he want coming out. I dealt with all the actual questions about her life..and death...(you are the death panel) .

After, I was glad he wasn't around. I just went boom boom boom, closing the apartment, selling this and that and all of that. No arguments.