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MineralMan

(146,284 posts)
29. Wow!
Mon Feb 10, 2020, 11:10 AM
Feb 2020

If I'm on a plane and a woman has the seat next to me, I don't even put my elbow on the arm rest between us. I don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable sitting next to me. I'm happy to have a conversation with the person next to me, but won't initiate one, for the same reason.

On the other hand, on a flight from JFK to Heathrow, I was seated next to a young woman who was at least 30 years my junior. After a couple of hours and some conversation, she asked if she could use my shoulder as a pillow. I said "Sure," and she had her head on my shoulder for three hours while having a nap.

As a man, I recognize that many women are uncomfortable with men they don't know, and may even have been bothered by one at some point. So, I take care not to make anyone uncomfortable.

Poor woman TEB Feb 2020 #1
Metro north in NYC in the 80's. I kept an old fashioned Squinch Feb 2020 #2
Great idea NT Rorey Feb 2020 #4
I'm a pretty passive person Rorey Feb 2020 #3
Isn't that exactly what trump used to do? radical noodle Feb 2020 #5
Poor thing Ohiogal Feb 2020 #6
I cannot fall asleep on a plane or a train... WestLosAngelesGal Feb 2020 #7
Video from "This Morning" on CBS True Blue Drew Feb 2020 #8
If that was me the guy would be embarrassed as hell blueinredohio Feb 2020 #9
Why do people do this? I don't think it's ever happened to me on a plane LisaM Feb 2020 #10
People should keep their hands to themselves cannabis_flower Feb 2020 #17
Good for your Manager Sherman A1 Feb 2020 #21
I don't know cannabis_flower Feb 2020 #23
I have a really depressing story from work. AtheistCrusader Feb 2020 #20
That is really sad Sherman A1 Feb 2020 #22
" Why do people do this? " mitch96 Feb 2020 #26
a guy touched me uninvited on a plane Skittles Feb 2020 #11
Really? That's great. Maraya1969 Feb 2020 #13
drunk college kid, grabbed my ass Skittles Feb 2020 #14
That's great. Unfortunately, I tend to freeze up. N/t TexasBushwhacker Feb 2020 #24
That kind of crap really 2naSalit Feb 2020 #12
Ugh, god I feel for her. a la izquierda Feb 2020 #15
What is it with men? LittleGirl Feb 2020 #16
This story just makes my blood boil! FM123 Feb 2020 #18
I am so grateful to the Me Too Movement Chemisse Feb 2020 #19
Horrifying ck4829 Feb 2020 #25
Who would do something like that on a plane? MineralMan Feb 2020 #27
My Dentist told me it's happened to her with a patient. Calista241 Feb 2020 #28
Wow! MineralMan Feb 2020 #29
I hope that applies to staring at fliers should we simply dislike the attire they wear. LanternWaste Feb 2020 #31
Just stop, please. MineralMan Feb 2020 #32
"she had a few sharp objects in his mouth." mitch96 Feb 2020 #30
She's attractive and he's a creep. Brainfodder Feb 2020 #33
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