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81. Dear SoCalDem...
Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:03 AM
Oct 2018

I’m so sorry to hear this. Sounds like you had one of the great marriages - sustaining for all those years. Thank you so much for including us in this time of such profound grief. I always feel so moved when someone here feels trusting enough to share such a major personal life moment. Many pairs of shoulders here for you to lean against. It’s an honor to be allowed to keep a vigil with you.

You do not mourn alone. As DU’s own Skittles once put it - “someone’s always here.”

So sorry for your loss SCD ... my heart goes out ... and know that you are loved mr_lebowski Oct 2018 #1
Sorry for your loss. mecherosegarden Oct 2018 #2
I am sorry. What a shock. I bet it still hasn't really sunk in. You are in my thoughts. Doodley Oct 2018 #3
Such a long time together. 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #4
I weep for you my sister in humanity. 🕯 sprinkleeninow Oct 2018 #5
You have my condolences. TexasTowelie Oct 2018 #6
I'm so sorry for your loss. CentralMass Oct 2018 #7
I'm so sorry Beaverhausen Oct 2018 #8
Electronic hugs and sympathetic vibes being sent to you (inadequate though they may be). alwaysinasnit Oct 2018 #9
To both you and family my condolences . This happened with my father - here one moment then gone. lunasun Oct 2018 #10
I am so sorry. You must be in shock. Shrike47 Oct 2018 #11
I am so sorry for your loss RainCaster Oct 2018 #12
I am so sorry. Corvo Bianco Oct 2018 #13
I'm so very sorry for your loss. StarryNite Oct 2018 #14
Celebrate the privilege of coinciding in space and time with him for 48 years, 9 months Xipe Totec Oct 2018 #15
Damn. WinstonSmith4740 Oct 2018 #234
So very sorry for your loss, my dear SoCalDem... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2018 #16
I'm so sorry. After so many years together, this is tough. Honeycombe8 Oct 2018 #17
OMG. my heart goes out to your and your family. iluvtennis Oct 2018 #18
I am so sorry for your loss...a lifetime together... Satch59 Oct 2018 #19
I am truly sorry proud patriot Oct 2018 #20
:( So sorry to hear. You were both beautiful in that photo! C Moon Oct 2018 #21
Deepest sympathy. Scarsdale Oct 2018 #175
((SoCal)) blm Oct 2018 #22
Love that picture. Looks like you grew up together. mountain grammy Oct 2018 #23
I'm sorry, SoCalDem Solly Mack Oct 2018 #24
I'm so sorry! DUgosh Oct 2018 #25
I am so very sorry for your loss, SoCalDem! pnwmom Oct 2018 #26
I'm terribly sorry. LisaM Oct 2018 #27
Very sorry for your loss JDC Oct 2018 #28
I wish you did not have to go thru this shock and loss. dixiegrrrrl Oct 2018 #29
such sad news orleans Oct 2018 #30
There is no way to prepare, and no words that are adequate DFW Oct 2018 #31
Sincere condolences... RHMerriman Oct 2018 #32
I never know the right words. Control-Z Oct 2018 #33
so sorry kanda Oct 2018 #34
Heartbreaking! I'm so sorry. You were a beautiful couple. spooky3 Oct 2018 #35
Condolences to you. edbermac Oct 2018 #36
I am so sorry for your loss. (eom) StevieM Oct 2018 #37
I never know what to say, except I am so sorry from the bottom of my heart. Laffy Kat Oct 2018 #38
I am so very sorry. murielm99 Oct 2018 #39
I'm so sorry for your loss. FuzzyRabbit Oct 2018 #40
I'm so sorry for your loss DesertRat Oct 2018 #41
So very sorry to read this sad news. Strokes are so very hard. No Vested Interest Oct 2018 #42
i am so sorry Demovictory9 Oct 2018 #43
So very sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. BadgerMom Oct 2018 #44
My heart goes to you. question everything Oct 2018 #45
Condolences, dear friend SoCalDem.... KY_EnviroGuy Oct 2018 #46
I'm so very sorry. cate94 Oct 2018 #47
You are a member of our family, too. What a blessing it must be to love each other so long. NBachers Oct 2018 #48
I'm so sorry. May his memory be a blessing. EllieBC Oct 2018 #49
Truly sorry. Duppers Oct 2018 #50
So so sorry for loss of your husband. God Bless you. trueblue2007 Oct 2018 #51
Care and comfort in your time of loss. rwheeler31 Oct 2018 #52
I'm so very very sorry, SoCalDem diva77 Oct 2018 #53
A loss that mere words are not enough to say how truly sorry I am... pbmus Oct 2018 #54
I am so sorry for your loss. tenderfoot Oct 2018 #55
What a lovely photo of you two. LittleGirl Oct 2018 #56
I always thought so too.. SoCalDem Oct 2018 #58
My sincere condolences, SoCalDem. kag Oct 2018 #57
Memory eternal shenmue Oct 2018 #59
I was saddened and touched by your story. It's is a haorrible loss, I cannot imagine. So very sad Pepsidog Oct 2018 #60
So sorry... JohnnyRingo Oct 2018 #61
I am so sorry. ChazInAz Oct 2018 #62
Hugs dear SoCalDem. Words don't begin. mahina Oct 2018 #63
I am so sorry. I recently went through something very similar AJT Oct 2018 #64
Condolences to you. spooky3 Oct 2018 #113
So sorry for your loss. I hope you're finding inner peace as you move forward. nt Fla Dem Oct 2018 #235
It sounds as though you built a beautiful life together. Totally Tunsie Oct 2018 #65
I'm so sorry for your loss. pruple Oct 2018 #66
Sad and beautiful. byronius Oct 2018 #67
I am so sorry. area51 Oct 2018 #68
How awful! Glamrock Oct 2018 #69
I am so very sorry, my friend. Rhiannon12866 Oct 2018 #70
I am so sorry Lifelong Protester Oct 2018 #71
Deepest sympathies to you and your family. Duncan Grant Oct 2018 #72
I'm so terribly sorry, SCD. Peace and strength to you and your in the difficult days ahead... Hekate Oct 2018 #73
So sorry for your loss. Remember the good times. GoneOffShore Oct 2018 #74
Paz! RestoreAmerica2020 Oct 2018 #75
My sincerest condolences R B Garr Oct 2018 #76
I am so sad for you. Silver Gaia Oct 2018 #77
A long and happy life together, a mercifully quick and peaceful end. DRoseDARs Oct 2018 #78
I'm so sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Oct 2018 #79
I am so sorry. Celebrate every second you shared with his wonderful energy; his smile says it all. fierywoman Oct 2018 #80
Dear SoCalDem... calimary Oct 2018 #81
I am so sorry KT2000 Oct 2018 #82
Heartbreaking, a very sad loss. JohnnyLib2 Oct 2018 #83
My heart goes out to you and all who love him... WePurrsevere Oct 2018 #84
Sorry to hear this, SoCalDem True Dough Oct 2018 #85
I'm so sorry for your loss SoCalDem. Thank you for posting livetohike Oct 2018 #86
Our condolences SoCalDem denbot Oct 2018 #87
Mu heart aches for you... FarPoint Oct 2018 #88
So sorry for your loss... Raster Oct 2018 #89
Oh dear! My sincere condolences, SCD... Dennis Donovan Oct 2018 #90
I am so very sorry. mnhtnbb Oct 2018 #91
Oh, SCD, babylonsister Oct 2018 #92
so sorry for your loss handmade34 Oct 2018 #93
my deepest condolences to you and your family. Kurt V. Oct 2018 #94
sorry for your loss, accept my condolences. JHan Oct 2018 #95
My condolences sellitman Oct 2018 #96
Sincere condolences MFM008 Oct 2018 #97
I'm so sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. Lars39 Oct 2018 #98
I know that there isn't much that words can do. zanana1 Oct 2018 #99
I am so sorry for your loss. CousinIT Oct 2018 #100
That's a heartbreaking story PJMcK Oct 2018 #101
I am so very sorry janterry Oct 2018 #102
Death sucks SallyHemmings Oct 2018 #103
Hugs, my friend Maeve Oct 2018 #104
I echo the sentiments of everyone on this forum. I am sorry. in2herbs Oct 2018 #105
I'm so sorry! redwitch Oct 2018 #106
I am sorry for your loss Cary Oct 2018 #107
Condolences,SoCalDem on the loss of your beloved husband. gademocrat7 Oct 2018 #108
I'm so sorry Ohiogal Oct 2018 #109
My deepest condolences to you and your family Docreed2003 Oct 2018 #110
My condolences to you and yours. rzemanfl Oct 2018 #111
i cant even imagine..... samnsara Oct 2018 #112
That's a sweet picture.You can tell there was love there. Crutchez_CuiBono Oct 2018 #114
I'm so sorry. sinkingfeeling Oct 2018 #115
I am so sorry for your loss Fresh_Start Oct 2018 #116
What a beautiful photograph. Zoonart Oct 2018 #117
Sincerest condolences to you and your family GeoWilliam750 Oct 2018 #118
my condolences krakfiend Oct 2018 #119
I'm so sorry Blue_playwright Oct 2018 #120
I so sorry, SoCalDem. Aristus Oct 2018 #121
I cant fathom the depths of your loss. Le Gaucher Oct 2018 #122
My heart breaks for you and your family lillypaddle Oct 2018 #123
So very sorry. democrank Oct 2018 #124
Please accept my condolences. malthaussen Oct 2018 #125
So very sorry SoCalDem... Tikki Oct 2018 #126
I am so sorry for you loss. TNLib Oct 2018 #127
It happened to me, too. BonnieJW Oct 2018 #128
I am so sorry. bronxiteforever Oct 2018 #129
So so sorry. My heart breaks for you. nt Kahuna7 Oct 2018 #130
Lump in my throat. So sorry for you and your sons. Fla Dem Oct 2018 #131
I am so very sorry. davsand Oct 2018 #132
I am so sorry for your loss. In_The_Wind Oct 2018 #133
Very sad for your loss. A long life together but never enough. IADEMO2004 Oct 2018 #134
Words always seem so insufficient. Online so very much more so tymorial Oct 2018 #135
I am so sorry for your loss. DarleenMB Oct 2018 #136
So sorry for YOUR loss SoCalDem Oct 2018 #167
Hugs to you. Your loss is so recent, I hope you are doing ok. Fla Dem Oct 2018 #237
Never enough years to love the people we love! nocoincidences Oct 2018 #137
Condolences for your loss. Skinner Oct 2018 #138
So sorry TuxedoKat Oct 2018 #139
I'm so sorry Bettie Oct 2018 #140
Oh no, I am so sorry. MuseRider Oct 2018 #141
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. madaboutharry Oct 2018 #142
. Loryn Oct 2018 #143
So sorry meow2u3 Oct 2018 #144
He had a wonderful smile! CrispyQ Oct 2018 #145
Forever in your heart........nt Heartstrings Oct 2018 #146
I am so sorry for your loss. Maraya1969 Oct 2018 #147
All my love Socaldem cally Oct 2018 #148
SoCalDem ... CountAllVotes Oct 2018 #149
... defacto7 Oct 2018 #150
So very sorry for your grief and sadness.....wish I could provide true comfort for your loss. ... Ninga Oct 2018 #151
So sorry SCD...... panader0 Oct 2018 #152
I'm sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. nt brer cat Oct 2018 #153
My deepest condolences.... airmid Oct 2018 #154
I'm so very sorry to hear your tragic news. BobTheSubgenius Oct 2018 #155
I'm so sorry, the same thing happened to my father 7 years ago. haele Oct 2018 #156
I am so so sorry. CaptainTruth Oct 2018 #157
Deepest condolences, SoCalDem. Granny M Oct 2018 #158
My empathies... No words. nt TwistOneUp Oct 2018 #159
So sorry for your loss Marthe48 Oct 2018 #160
I'm very sorry for your loss. dae Oct 2018 #161
My condolences to you and your family pandr32 Oct 2018 #162
I'm very sorry for your loss FakeNoose Oct 2018 #163
I'm so very sorry. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2018 #164
Sorry for your loss... Stuart G Oct 2018 #165
Holding you in my heart for comfort, SCD... so very sorry. TygrBright Oct 2018 #166
... Amimnoch Oct 2018 #168
Wishing you comfort during this intense heartbreak. JudyM Oct 2018 #169
My heart to you kentuck Oct 2018 #170
My condolences on your loss. greatauntoftriplets Oct 2018 #171
Sorry for your loss. 47of74 Oct 2018 #172
Lovely photo, your smiles speak through your grief saidsimplesimon Oct 2018 #173
So very, very sorry. hostalover Oct 2018 #174
i'm so sorry for your loss. barbtries Oct 2018 #176
Damned onions made my eyes water. keithbvadu2 Oct 2018 #177
Sorry for your loss Dan Oct 2018 #178
My deepest sympathies hermetic Oct 2018 #179
so sorry for your loss (nt) matt819 Oct 2018 #180
SO sorry for your loss, wish I could console you. You had a long blessed marriage. joanbarnes Oct 2018 #181
so sorry to hear this sad news bigtree Oct 2018 #182
I'm so sorry for your loss kimbutgar Oct 2018 #183
What a gorgeous couple! colorado_ufo Oct 2018 #184
I am so sorry UpInArms Oct 2018 #185
So sorry. volstork Oct 2018 #186
I'm so sorry for your loss. herding cats Oct 2018 #187
So very sorry to hear this...48+ years! Great for the both of you! masmdu Oct 2018 #188
My heart breaks for you snowybirdie Oct 2018 #189
...My dad went that way also. In time may you find peace. Jack-o-Lantern Oct 2018 #190
I am so very sorry for your devastating loss. I know there are no words, nothing that niyad Oct 2018 #191
Condolences wryter2000 Oct 2018 #192
I'm so sorry qanda Oct 2018 #193
Terrible news. Hope that your sons and you are brought closer together grantcart Oct 2018 #194
I am so sorry for your great loss. irisblue Oct 2018 #195
So sorry to hear of this, SCD. That you were able to be there with/for him at the end may be FailureToCommunicate Oct 2018 #196
So So Sorry for your loss sdfernando Oct 2018 #197
So very sorry for you loss dbackjon Oct 2018 #198
So sorry for your loss minstrel76 Oct 2018 #199
Oh lord. I am so sorry. crazytown Oct 2018 #200
This is so sad... BigmanPigman Oct 2018 #201
I'm so sorry for your loss. Power 2 the People Oct 2018 #202
Sending sympathetic thoughts to you and your family.... northoftheborder Oct 2018 #203
My deep condolences to you and your sons polmaven Oct 2018 #204
I am saddened by your loss. marble falls Oct 2018 #205
My deepest sympathies... farmbo Oct 2018 #206
I am terribly saddened to hear of your loss. Moostache Oct 2018 #207
My heart aches for you. I'm so sorry for your loss. NurseJackie Oct 2018 #208
Love and peace to you. Freedomofspeech Oct 2018 #209
Sending you and your children 💕✨☀️ MLAA Oct 2018 #210
I'm so sorry for your loss. debsy Oct 2018 #211
My heart goes out to you and your family. nt chowder66 Oct 2018 #212
So sorry for your loss. duforsure Oct 2018 #213
Truly, truly sorry for your loss. LoisB Oct 2018 #214
Deepest condolences on your loss. Behind the Aegis Oct 2018 #215
I am so sorry for your loss. onecaliberal Oct 2018 #216
That looks likearound 1970. You guys are such a beautiful couple. zonkers Oct 2018 #217
It was 1971, when we were visiting my aunt in Miami SoCalDem Oct 2018 #220
So sorry for your loss bpj62 Oct 2018 #218
I am very sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. Kind of Blue Oct 2018 #219
Sorry for your loss. Jim__ Oct 2018 #221
My dearest SoCalDem, my heart goes out to your huband, you and your family. scubadude Oct 2018 #222
OMG! I'm so sorry for you and your kids. TheBlackAdder Oct 2018 #223
So, so sorry for your loss and pain,SCD. stuffmatters Oct 2018 #224
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, SCD yonder Oct 2018 #225
My heart aches for you, SoCalDem... choie Oct 2018 #226
Deepest sympathy from an internet stranger... 50 Shades Of Blue Oct 2018 #227
I am so sorry. trof Oct 2018 #228
Ready for the kicker? SoCalDem Oct 2018 #229
damn trof Oct 2018 #231
I am so sorry for your loss. sheshe2 Oct 2018 #230
In your photo he appears to be a very kind man ZZenith Oct 2018 #232
So very sorry. WinstonSmith4740 Oct 2018 #233
Very sorry for your loss. MarvinGardens Oct 2018 #236
I'm so sorry, SoCalDem. SalmonChantedEvening Oct 2018 #238
I'm so sorry PennyK Oct 2018 #239
Prayers to you and your husband benld74 Oct 2018 #240
So sorry for your loss. littlemissmartypants Oct 2018 #241
My deepest condolences. sl8 Oct 2018 #242
Oh my Dear SoCal annabanana Oct 2018 #243
... UTUSN Oct 2018 #244
Peace friend Wawannabe Oct 2018 #245
My deepest sympathy to you! AwakeAtLast Oct 2018 #246
So sorry for this terrible loss peacebuzzard Oct 2018 #247
My condolences Hoosier Oct 2018 #248
We are never ready. Peace to you. LuckyLib Oct 2018 #249
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. You made a fine looking couple. flying_wahini Oct 2018 #250
I am so very sorry, I wish I had more and better words for you. FM123 Oct 2018 #251
I am so sorry for your loss meadowlark5 Oct 2018 #252
Oh no! cilla4progress Oct 2018 #253
I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband, SoCalDem. (((hugs))) sueh Oct 2018 #254
Greatest condolences oldtime dfl_er Oct 2018 #255
Sharing is healing randr Oct 2018 #256
So sad to read this...you were a beautiful couple! OAITW r.2.0 Oct 2018 #257
*hugs* sakabatou Oct 2018 #258
My heart goes out to you, SoCalDem frogmarch Oct 2018 #259
So very sorry samplegirl Oct 2018 #260
I'm so sorry. blogslut Oct 2018 #261
What a wonderful life you must have led. MicaelS Oct 2018 #262
My heart goes out to you... Phentex Oct 2018 #263
Very Very sorry! bluestarone Oct 2018 #264
My sincerest sympathies to you and your family Niagara Oct 2018 #265
Oh honey. I am so very sorry. nolabear Oct 2018 #266
Thats awful. Im so sorry imavoter Nov 2018 #267
Wow! Deepest Condolences SCD! ProfessorGAC Nov 2018 #268
SoCalDem, I send you my profound condolences. kairos12 Nov 2018 #269
I am so sorry for your loss. yardwork Nov 2018 #270
I'm so sorry... LeftInTX Nov 2018 #271
I only just now saw this, linked from another post. I am so very sorry. Tanuki Nov 2018 #272
Sending love and sympathy Danmel Nov 2018 #273
Sincere condolences to you and your family. peekaloo Nov 2018 #274
You have my most heartfelt condolences MrScorpio Nov 2018 #275
My heart aches for you. williesgirl Nov 2018 #276
I can't begin to know what you're going through... MissMillie Nov 2018 #277
I'm very sorry to hear this underpants Nov 2018 #278
I am sorry for your loss. GWC58 Nov 2018 #279
Very sorry. Take care still_one Nov 2018 #280
I hope you and your family are at peace. riversedge Nov 2018 #281
I am so, so sorry, SoCalDem. nt tblue37 Nov 2018 #282
Sorry. You and your family ghostsinthemachine Nov 2018 #283
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