Vent about having to say no to a relative asking for money.

[redstatebluegirl]

2. I have often said that if I win the lottery I'll have to hide for years from

all of the deadbeats in my family and my husband's that would try and borrow from us. We have had a number of these over the years, we always say no, we tell them we can't help everyone and do not want to show favoritism so we don't do anything. We are very generous to our nieces and nephews at birthdays, graduations etc. We know they blow the money the minute they get it just like their parents but there it is.

My brother on the other hand has lost thousands of dollars giving "loans" for various reasons. All of these people work, most are couples that both work, they just can't handle their money. Plus we don't have children, so they assume we are flush for things they "need". Nope, I put any extra we have into our retirement account because we are not going to inherit anything, and we know our siblings can't help us and we don't have kids so it is on us.

You did the right thing.