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Ineeda

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5. The two best ways to disarm someone, from my experience,
Wed Jul 11, 2012, 08:00 AM
Jul 2012

is to look them straight in the eye with either an overly sympathetic 'Oh, you poor dear -- you must have had a bad night' comment or 'OMG, you're sooo funny -- you crack me up' followed by hysterical laughter. Both are passive aggressive, true, and she'll probably know it. But neither are offensive in any way.

In my experince, people like this aren't going to change because you are nice to them Major Nikon Jul 2012 #1
Ignore completely as much as possible. n/t ellisonz Jul 2012 #2
Try and be with a friend lovemydog Jul 2012 #3
Google the word bully lunatica Jul 2012 #4
The two best ways to disarm someone, from my experience, Ineeda Jul 2012 #5
+1 Scuba Jul 2012 #7
Also TuxedoKat Jul 2012 #15
Great post! I'm going to use your advice on a rude woman I know in a 12 step program. nt raccoon Jul 2012 #22
Thanks TuxedoKat Jul 2012 #26
Pay attention, learn, and present an unexpected gift. HopeHoops Jul 2012 #6
Best pipi_k Jul 2012 #8
I do the same with agressive dogs. I just treat them like my favorite pet. HopeHoops Jul 2012 #10
Good advice TuxedoKat Jul 2012 #27
Hope this helps you its helped me. turtlerescue1 Jul 2012 #9
I don't understand what you mean. raccoon Jul 2012 #11
Sometimes you have to strain to imagine.... turtlerescue1 Jul 2012 #16
Google "workplace bullying". Good suggestions here, esp. #8. nt raccoon Jul 2012 #12
Courtesy and professionalism lastlib Jul 2012 #13
My last rude co-worker libodem Jul 2012 #14
Try all of the above NV Whino Jul 2012 #17
I worked with someone similar for quite a while AmyDeLune Jul 2012 #18
This is great advice. raccoon Jul 2012 #23
I had that experience once............ mrmpa Jul 2012 #19
Tell her that she looks exactly like the last girl you worked with who mysteriously disappeared Ikonoklast Jul 2012 #20
You're handling it just right but... Fridays Child Jul 2012 #21
Yes, document all the rude/hostile things she does or says. Keep this documentation somewhere raccoon Jul 2012 #24
" I don't know what your problem is but I bet it's hard to pronounce" BlueCollar Jul 2012 #25
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