Am I the only one (at least here) that detests "family zoom" calls?

[NNadir]

12. I'm not sure this will help, but I try this line on my wife when she's having a problem with...

...someone who she thinks is putting her down. (My wife is a very sensitive type.)

First I ask her to think of Ms. Roosevelt's sterling advice, which is, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

You might try this, when she says something to put you down, you could smile and say, "How charming..." or something similar, and nothing more. "What a lovely thought..." Trust me, it may drive her crazy.

You can actually kill people with kindness, even if it not actually real kindness or intended as kindness.

Personally, I always try to be amused by my anger. It's easier on me.

As for Zoom, at least you don't need to be in the room with her. You have a husband you love, and that is more than everything else; your husband will be in the room with you, and neither her nor your ex.

Life is too short to waste it on anger. If it's for your children, and their families that you zoom or go, enjoy those for whom you go.