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In reply to the discussion: Well I just got dumped. [View all]pipi_k
(21,020 posts)us have, and it sucks, but it sucks even more when you don't see it coming.
My first husband did something similar.
We went to a movie, went out for dinner afterward, had a great time.
The next day he moved out.
Stunned is not even adequate to describe how I felt.
This was early 1970s, and in the years gone by I've come to see that maybe it was a way for him to feel less guilty about what he was about to do. He never gave a thought as to how badly it would mess with my head.
When he asked to come back a few months later I said yes.
Of course, a short time later he left again. When he asked to come back a third time (probably because his latest girlfriend kicked him out and he had no place else to go) I said, "Absolutely NOT".
He got married two more times after that and did the same thing. His third wife took him back too many times to count. They were married over 20 years when he passed away. One or the other would leave, then they would get back together. Hey...whatever worked for them, more power to 'em. It just wasn't for me.
anyway, it's hard to believe now, but as sick as you feel now (I always felt like I had gotten hit by a speeding bus) it will pass. This is his issue...not yours. Although if you find yourself getting involved with men who do this sort of thing, you may want to do some personal digging to find out why you're attracted to those men (even on a subconscious level).
So sorry you're hurting now...