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In reply to the discussion: Well I just got dumped. [View all]TwilightGardener
(46,416 posts)for someone else, actually--that would have hurt, but at least I would have had some closure. No, for whatever reason, he came to the conclusion that he just didn't want to be with me anymore. That drove me crazy. I did stupid things, in my heartbreak and confusion, in the months following. Things I hate admitting to (though nothing insane, hurtful, or illegal--just things like trying to call him, trying to "run into" him, trying to find out from friends what he was doing and whether he was dating again). We had seen each other almost every day, talked every day, for two years, and then...it was over, and I was suddenly alone, and I had to grieve. And you have to, too. It's like a little death. There is no shortcut and nothing that will heal you other than letting go (including the hope that you can get back together), the passage of time, and a positive attitude about your future. Wanting him to hurt is understandable, but you'll see in time that that attitude only prevents you from moving on--which hurts YOU.