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In reply to the discussion: Well I just got dumped. [View all]riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)Your final paragraph is supremely instructive:
"I never had kids for a reason, or for many reasons actually, but chief among them is the freedom to do what I like and go where I like and not be obligated by family to visit them, instead of somewhere I'd rather be. And I guess that this could not be possible with him. "
Alarimer, this is a fundamental divide. You cannot bridge this. ANYONE with children will ALWAYS prioritize their kids (well 99.9% of the time, if they're decent. And if they don't, RUN AWAY!)
You need to recognize this for future relationships and happiness. Its not a "flaw", its just you. But knowing this is essential to a happier future. FWIW, I have a daughter whose very much like you and isn't interested in kids at all. She's found the perfect partner for the past 4 years.
Good luck.