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magical thyme

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25. OOOOOH....wait a minute! Minor detail. In that case:
Sun Mar 2, 2014, 04:04 PM
Mar 2014

If you have a few extra bucks, bring home takeout a couple times during the work week. Do a spaghetti or crock pot dinner one weekend dinner. Make sandwiches on a weekend day -- surely you can lay down a piece of bread, layer stuff on it (dressing, avocado slices, cheese slices, greens, tomato slices, cuke slices, etc), put a piece of bread on top and slice the whole thing in half, right? You don't need to cook from scratch all the time, either: canned soups with a sandwich. Surely you can make canned soups, right? I live alone and care for a farm with animals. If I'm too sick to do much else, I'll even just put half a can of tomato or chicken soup in a coffee mug, add milk or water, and microwave for 3 minutes.

Basic housework is easy. Once/week routine: Take dust cloth and run it over wood surfaces. Spritz any glass tabletops with window cleaner (vinegar & water works fine) and wipe off with paper towel. Sweep or dry mop wood floors; sweep or damp mop linoleum or tile floors; vacuum rugs. In the bathroom, get toothbrushes, etc. out of the way, sprinkle the sink with cleanser and wash it with designated sponge. Do same in the tub: sprinkle with cleanser and wash with designated sponge. Sprinkle cleanser in toilet and scrub with designated brush. If you get that much done once/week, and if she comes in after for additional deep cleaning that will be great and if not, things stay liveable.

Laundry: some people sort clothes by darks and lights, but I find stuff is very colorfast these days. some people sort clothes by heavy weight and light. Personally I quit sorting long ago: I have a load that is mixed underwear and socks and usually some towels, and in winter sweats, non-wool sweaters and turtlenecks in it (summer tees and other tops). Then I have a load that is sheets and maybe towels if my clothes load was extra full. And a load that is my comforter. Those are my basic 3 loads. Your mileage may vary.

Clean the house and cook her a nice dinner that's waiting for her when she gets home. nt ChisolmTrailDem Feb 2014 #1
Seriously?... TeeYiYi Feb 2014 #2
Any chance you start a garden? TexasTowelie Feb 2014 #3
Brody has been interesting. I will post an update. No place for a garden diabeticman Mar 2014 #16
Do a terrible job of cleaning the house angstlessk Feb 2014 #4
That's what I was thinking LoveMyCali Feb 2014 #5
Yes.. sendero Feb 2014 #12
Here are some ideas marzipanni Feb 2014 #6
how about this grasswire Feb 2014 #7
You don't have to do it perfectly BainsBane Feb 2014 #8
You can learn to cook and clean My Good Babushka Feb 2014 #9
How do you get better at cleaning the house? UncleYoder Feb 2014 #10
clean the effing house and cook a simple meal. No wonder she's frustrated. magical thyme Feb 2014 #11
Homemade salad spinner: put greens in clean plastic bag with holes poked along bottom marzipanni Feb 2014 #14
That is a great idea. femmocrat Mar 2014 #18
life partners are supposed to share day-to-day responsibilities NJCher Feb 2014 #13
I will do dishes when I can and the laundry. I work 40 hours a week too. I'm not a freeloader. diabeticman Mar 2014 #22
You left that out, that you are also working full-time My Good Babushka Mar 2014 #24
OOOOOH....wait a minute! Minor detail. In that case: magical thyme Mar 2014 #25
make a homemade pizza MissMillie Feb 2014 #15
Learn. Seriously. IdaBriggs Mar 2014 #17
I do the laundry and dishes when I can but I work night shift 40 hours a week. diabeticman Mar 2014 #19
How about learning to clean the house? NewJeffCT Mar 2014 #20
Learn how to clean and cook. Vashta Nerada Mar 2014 #21
Oh, I bet you COULD cook to save your life. Ino Mar 2014 #23
He doesn't actually want to do anything. Vashta Nerada Mar 2014 #27
Yeah, that's what I thought. Ino Mar 2014 #56
The easiest dinner you can make.......... mrmpa Mar 2014 #26
I feel for you. RandySF Mar 2014 #28
I am NOT unemployed. I work 40 hours a week. It amazes me how everyone assumed I was unemployed diabeticman Mar 2014 #29
If she is working 40 + hours tavernier Mar 2014 #41
READ the thread HE has a full time job too!! He just wants to do something nice for his wife n/t auntAgonist Mar 2014 #46
Yes, I did read it. He has one job, she has two. tavernier Mar 2014 #48
How do you know he didn't? I'm all for him helping around the house. Make no mistake. Yes, auntAgonist Mar 2014 #50
My advice is... Sweet Freedom Mar 2014 #30
okay. diabeticman Mar 2014 #31
clean the house already. after spending 10 hors a week on that to even out your time, make sure you bettyellen Mar 2014 #32
I have been reading this post and was not going to answer it. texanwitch Mar 2014 #33
Poor diabetic man My Good Babushka Mar 2014 #34
I agree! femmocrat Mar 2014 #36
A woman's gotta sleep sometimes too. Gormy Cuss Mar 2014 #54
Tell her how much you appreciate her Generic Brad Mar 2014 #35
How? To me that would mean paying someone to come and clean the house. Fine wiith me! CTyankee Mar 2014 #37
There are many ways Generic Brad Mar 2014 #38
that's nice and actually should be what male and females do for their partner all the time. CTyankee Mar 2014 #45
Make a lunch to send off to work with your wife... Earth_First Mar 2014 #39
Vacation Renew Deal Mar 2014 #40
Crank up the old crock pot Samantha Mar 2014 #42
My husband and I are retired. He has had two spinal surgeries and now I have been CTyankee Mar 2014 #43
Try making a schedule to split cooking and housework. Ilsa Mar 2014 #44
I think if you edit this post to add that you too work FULL TIME the answers might be different (?) auntAgonist Mar 2014 #47
It just boggles my mind how people assumed I was unemployed. It isn't like I have never talked diabeticman Mar 2014 #49
Could I just say, though, that I've been here since 2001 and Arugula Latte Mar 2014 #52
Ask her what she would like you to do. Lars39 Mar 2014 #51
All of the little things... chrisa Mar 2014 #53
My husband has MS ismnotwasm Mar 2014 #55
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