Do I try and repair my wife's relationship with her mother or just leave it.

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13. Well, reading through

the replies here, it looks like there is unanimous agreement on many points, and I agree.

You can't "fix" their relationship, nor should you try.

Don't borrow from, nor lend to, the MIL.

Stay away from the MIL as much as possible, unless, as someone else above said, you want to constantly get sucked into the family drama.

And finally, I also agree with the suggestion that counseling for you and your wife on how to deal with her mother is a great idea. You can't change the MIL, but sometimes we can change how people treat us by showing them what we will and won't tolerate. If that doesn't work, then limiting contact will have to do. But a therapist can help you both work on an effective strategy.