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calimary

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14. You, too, 'eh?

Reply to Raine1967 (Reply #1)

Mon Mar 24, 2014, 04:54 PM

Mar 2014

I agree with everything you said, Raine, and funny enough, just this weekend I was exorcising another demon or two from my own memories of "Life with Mother." With LOTS to go!!!

Diabeticman, there really isn't much you can do except what my husband did for me: stay close, stand staunchly by me and give me support, and stay out of it. Just understand you're dealing with a spoiled, mixed-up, adult-size child. It's not your battle to fight. You can't fix this, especially if the individual on the other end refuses to acknowledge any reason that there's something within them needing to be fixed.

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Do I try and repair my wife's relationship with her mother or just leave it. [View all] diabeticman Mar 2014 OP

It's not for you to repair this. Raine1967 Mar 2014 #1

You, too, 'eh? calimary Mar 2014 #14

I am still amazed at how nice it is to have a life partner that is a PARTNER. Raine1967 Mar 2014 #15

I doubt there is anything you can do. The Velveteen Ocelot Mar 2014 #2

You said it better than I. Raine1967 Mar 2014 #3

This is very good advice and information. mnhtnbb Mar 2014 #9

Just leave it. Iggo Mar 2014 #4

Never let anyone suck you into their lifelong insane family drama. NEVER. alphafemale Mar 2014 #5

No. It's rough but it's not in us or for us to repair other people's L/T fucked-up relationships. Chan790 Mar 2014 #6

Never get between a mother and daughter. femmocrat Mar 2014 #7

Agreed Sherman A1 Mar 2014 #8

I'm pretty sure I have read your posts in the past davidpdx Mar 2014 #10

As long as your wife continues to enable her mother's behaviour, nothing will change. Kaleva Mar 2014 #11

Leave it alone. noamnety Mar 2014 #12

Well, reading through pipi_k Mar 2014 #13