Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

The DU Lounge

Wait Wut

(8,492 posts)

4. No.

Reply to ohnoyoudidnt (Original post)

Tue Jul 15, 2014, 07:58 PM

Jul 2014

Everyone reacts differently to losing someone. Just watch her mood, see if she's hinting she'd like to laugh, get out, eat, etc.

I'm a loner, so I always prefer to live in denial until reality hits me. Then, I need to laugh. Others need to cry and have people close.

You being there for her is probably the best thing you could do.

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

21 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

Does anyone have tips on consoling a person who has lost a loved one [View all] ohnoyoudidnt Jul 2014 OP

Just stay close. rug Jul 2014 #1

The kindest words sarge43 Jul 2014 #2

and know that they often will not ask for things they need SoCalDem Jul 2014 #15

Don't say, listen LiberalEsto Jul 2014 #3

No. Wait Wut Jul 2014 #4

Just be there for her. raptor_rider Jul 2014 #5

Listen. easttexaslefty Jul 2014 #6

Everybody needs something different. LisaLynne Jul 2014 #7

here's a few suggestions orleans Jul 2014 #8

Thank you! Especially for the best things/worst things to say lists. nt raccoon Jul 2014 #17

Me myself - just have to keep loving my DU/GD/Louners keeping on n/t UTUSN Jul 2014 #9

Be there. Make sure they are taking care of their personal needs. blogslut Jul 2014 #10

I was a grief & trauma counsellor for many years, and used this handout in my work. DeadLetterOffice Jul 2014 #11

this is a wonderful post orleans Jul 2014 #13

Thank you, and it's been posted. DeadLetterOffice Jul 2014 #14

It's helpful for me. lovemydog Jul 2014 #16

they sound like they would all be very appropriate and helpful orleans Jul 2014 #18

Excellent. DeadLetterOffice Jul 2014 #19

Thank you ohnoyoudidnt Jul 2014 #21

The best thing I've learned is to follow their lead. Iggo Jul 2014 #12

For me, its best just to say, I know I can't do anything but be here, but know I am here dr.strangelove Jul 2014 #20