35 Years Later My Father Reaches Out.

[Major Nikon]

8. Even if you forgive it doesn't mean you have to reestablish the relationship

I have a brother that I haven't spoken one word to in almost 20 years. He still tries to contact me from time to time and I just ignore him. It's not because I still have hard feelings against him. I wish him the best. I just don't want to have anything to do with him. We don't get to pick who our blood relatives are and some just aren't worth associating with even if all the bad feelings are long gone. If it's still causing you conflict in your life and you want answers, you may want to see him, but if you don't then don't worry about it. Do what's best for you, not him. Nobody deserves anything simply because of a blood relationship. Another thing to consider is that he still may be fucked up to one degree or another and establishing contact with him may not be the best idea. People can and do change, but quite often they don't.