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Bonobo

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9. Personal anecdotes are nice but don't exactly address the issue I am describing.

Tue Dec 30, 2014, 10:51 PM

Dec 2014

I seem to have done a poor job in making my point for some reason.

Perhaps men ARE different or I am different from most men, but I would like to be pursued more than I think most men are. I would like to be the object of desire in the way that I think most women get to be at some point in their lives. I am happy with my looks and am complimented a fair bit, and I do understand as well that it is superficial to care about such things, but I think it is a common human trait.

My point is why is this common desire so accepted in women ("You ARE beautiful on the inside and outside, etc!&quot but not in men?

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One topic in gender issues that I rarely see discussed [View all] Bonobo Dec 2014 OP

It's easier to criticise the other end of that dynamic rather than trying to solve any problems Major Nikon Dec 2014 #1

Harry Belafonte had some wise words on the matter, I think. Warren DeMontague Dec 2014 #2

Daylight come and I wanna go home? Doctor_J Dec 2014 #5

... Warren DeMontague Dec 2014 #6

The calypso version KansDem Jan 2015 #10

What makes a man desirable as a husband isn't primarily about appearance. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2014 #3

That cuts both ways however Doctor_J Dec 2014 #4

"you've opened up the other end"... Bonobo Dec 2014 #7

My wife is frequently complementary of my looks. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2014 #8

Personal anecdotes are nice but don't exactly address the issue I am describing. Bonobo Dec 2014 #9

I define this a little differently as to accommodate a broader cross section Veilex Jan 2015 #11

This was alerted on when first posted. RiffRandell Jan 2015 #12

Glad to see those results. Thanks for posting them. nt Bonobo Jan 2015 #13

One advantage to being born ugly is that I've never Flatulo Jan 2015 #14