Help for a friend, please? Wife of an alcoholic.

[Butterbean]

4. Thank you. I will tell her what you said, and find the locations and times of some

al anon meetings for her to attend (she's at work today). I did tell her when she was telling me about how her husband said she "needed to help" him that it wasn't her job and that it was his addiction, not hers.

I think her husband is blowing sunshine up her ass right now, quite frankly, and is not going to seek treatment at all. I don't think he's ready. I don't think he's stopped drinking like he's telling her he has, because he has zero withdrawal signs. The man was drinking 36 beers a day (a 6 pack before work, a case after work, and a 6 pack before bed). He should definitely be having some withdrawal if he's stopped cold turkey. She's a nurse and she knows this, but of course, her head is so far buried in the sand that it's just ridiculous.

This whole situation is so frustrating. He's been like this ever since I've known him, and the fact that EVERYBODY around her recognized his alcoholism but her is a testament to how heavily she was in denial.