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SCantiGOP

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3. I buried my best friend at 45

Reply to Comatose Sphagetti (Original post)

Sat Feb 24, 2018, 12:22 PM

Feb 2018

Booze, pills, coke, whatever. He died from what a John Mayall song termed "Another Accidental Suicide."
But you are correct, it is nearly impossible to see ourselves as we really are. The intoxicants are just too good at fooling you into keeping them in charge.
He came to a party once and everyone was very supportive and congratulatory that he had gone 2 weeks without drinking after getting a DUI. He was so proud of the fact that he had beaten back the demons that ------------- he got drunk to celebrate.
I remember trying to convince him, until he got too drunk to make sense, that you couldn't celebrate sobriety by drinking.

This was all 20 years ago. I still have regrets and feel horrible that I didn't do more to intervene in his situation, even though I really don't think there was anything I could have done that would have worked.

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I used to be a drunk... [View all] Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 OP

Thanks! irisblue Feb 2018 #1

Great post, and thank you for cilla4progress Feb 2018 #2

Well said. Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #4

I buried my best friend at 45 SCantiGOP Feb 2018 #3

"...even though I really don't think there was anything I could have done that would have worked." Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #5

The line between fear and rage is very thin - fear leads to rage. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2018 #6

For me, rage is fear. Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #9

So cool. cilla4progress Feb 2018 #13

Yep. Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #15

There is a big difference between what I see in myself and what I see in others. JayhawkSD Feb 2018 #7

We will have to agree to disagree, my friend. (N/T). Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #8

thanks old timer Backwoodsrider Feb 2018 #11

Yes to some of us who has been through it we can see addictive behaviors galore in politics Backwoodsrider Feb 2018 #10

"Every day on the news Trump helps me see my character defects in another person" Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #12

I'm afraid they will turn on us - cilla4progress Feb 2018 #14

It's hard for me, sometimes, to not take trumpers inventory. Woman in the Mirror. irisblue Feb 2018 #16

Not an addict but gibraltar72 Feb 2018 #17

Ah geez🤦‍♀️ irisblue Feb 2018 #18

"...a growing awareness something was terribly wrong..." Iggo Mar 2018 #19

Yep. He is also a "higher power" of sorts to them JDC Mar 2018 #20

I've heard people in the program refer to non-alcoholics as "normies," as in normal people. Comatose Sphagetti Mar 2018 #21

IME Many people who don't go to any meetings really raccoon Jul 2018 #23

One of the most important lessons of the meetings...is ..acceptance... Stuart G May 2018 #22