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Addiction & Recovery

bif

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5. Don't beat yourself up over it. Here's the best analogy I've heard...

Reply to JDC (Reply #1)

Sun Apr 28, 2019, 11:35 AM

Apr 2019

It's like building a wall. You keep adding to it and make it stronger. A relapse is like knocking a few bricks loose from it. You still have most of the wall, so just rebuild that part that got knocked down and go from there. Some programs treat it like it's a total loss. I don't buy that. It's all a learning experience. The other line I heard that resonated with me (and I usually hate all those tired cliches) is: don't focus on who you were, but who you want to be! Hang in there and don't give up on yourself.

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Relapses suck. [View all] irisblue Apr 2019 OP

They do. My dad has been sober a long time and he always told me JDC Apr 2019 #1

Don't beat yourself up over it. Here's the best analogy I've heard... bif Apr 2019 #5

Hope you/they at least had fun at the time ... mr_lebowski Apr 2019 #2

One of my best friends is a recovering alcoholic. Turbineguy Apr 2019 #3

Took my dad ages to quit smoking, but he did...finally. Just climb back on the horse. Karadeniz Apr 2019 #4

Please..do not give up. Yes, relapses do suck. They are awful.. Stuart G Apr 2019 #6