My nephew has our family at the edge. [View all]

[redstatebluegirl]

He is a brilliant college educated young man in his late 20's. He has fought alcoholism, and drug dependency for 6 years now ever since he was mugged outside a campus bar in 2013. When he is using he is mean, nasty and dangerous. He has been arrested 4 times, and my sister and her husband bailed him out and tried to get him into treatment. Last weekend he was on a bender and threatened his sweet neighbor who called the cops. He has recently threatened suicide and was taken to the hospital that threw him out after 3 days. He can't hold a job, he has alienated most of his family, including me and my husband.

We have tried to get him help, inpatient and out patient but the insurance won't pay for much and none of us have the money to help. My sister is now considering using her retirement account to help him once again. They are totally broke except for the retirement, plus they are behind on their mortgage for the first time in their lives, they are in their mid 50's.

I begged my sister this morning not to tap their retirement and to pull back on the financial help. I told her they could offer him support but not financial. He cannot hold a job anymore and is not employable in finance which is what he was trained in, because of his arrest record.

I am really at the end of my rope. I am normally a very caring person, but right now I just want to wring his neck.