Should I feel guilty about skipping this? [View all]
We're invited to go sailing with my future son-in-law and his dad tonight. It's to scatter his mom's ashes in the lake. On the one hand, I feel guilty about not being there for them. But on the other hand, there will be a bunch of their close friends, so me not being there won't be as obvious. To me, sailing was a lot more fun when I was drinking. And everyone on the boat will be drinking. Not getting absolutely hammered like I'd get. But I wouldn't drink. It's just that I'd feel uncomfortable the whole time, especially being around folks I don't know all that well. I don't like those kinds of gatherings. The way I figure it, it's all about me at this point. It hasn't been quite a year of being sober. If they want me to stay clean, they'll just have to deal with going to some events without me. And my family does understand. They're the ones who arranged the intervention 11 months ago. Thoughts?
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